The term “sandwich generation” has been in our vocabulary since 1981, when social worker Dorothy Miller coined the term to describe women in their 30s and 40s who were “sandwiched” between young children and aging parents as their primary caregivers.

The first indicator I had that my mother-in-law was developing dementia was when I took her and my young grandson to see “Finding Nemo” at the movies. When it was over, I asked what she thought about it.