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Posted: Wednesday, February 13, 2013 12:00 am

On Feb. 8, while sitting in the turn lane on Kettleman and Church and waiting for my son to bring me gas after running out, I was approached by two men offering to help push me off the road. My vehicle is old and pretty heavy, but they were able to push my car into the parking lot nearby. They said, "God bless," and left.

I was thinking about how we often judge people, and we shouldn't. These two men were Hispanic and had tattoos, and people might often judge them for no reason but for their appearance.

I would like to thank them, and just tell people that we shouldn't be so quick to judge. People are all different: short, tall, skinny, fat, different color skin and different dress.

This came just a week after losing my wallet, and having people have a field day with using my cards to buy themselves all sorts of things, so these two men just brought me back to the fact that there are good people out there, too. I will make sure to "pay it forward!" Thank you!

Julie Edsell


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  • Joanne Bobin posted at 4:52 pm on Fri, Feb 15, 2013.

    Joanne Bobin Posts: 4488

    What part of town? Whatever could you mean by this comment, Mr. Walters?

    Are you suggesting that these two men would have different behavior in a different area of Lodi?

  • Robert Jacobs posted at 10:14 am on Fri, Feb 15, 2013.

    Robert Jacobs Posts: 298

    I would hope others would help others because its the right thing to do (Morally) not because of what someone else has done for us...

    Although there is one who paid the ultimate price, so that "we all could choose" to pay it forward!

  • Sally Keszler posted at 8:05 pm on Wed, Feb 13, 2013.

    Sally Keszler Posts: 29

    I remember being a freshman at University of Santa Clara in 1970 taking a greyhound bus to come home. A white, well dressed man was all over me, in my face and in my space. I was 18 and so scared. A tall (6'8" plus) black man (named Wilbur) came up and put his arm in mine and told the man "Quit messing with my lady". We sat together all the way to Stockton. I later found out he was a star player on the University of Santa Clara basketball team. He rescued me. I learned over 40 years ago NEVER EVER judge book by its cover.

  • Ed Walters posted at 12:33 pm on Wed, Feb 13, 2013.

    the old dog Posts: 641

    Ms. Edsell: you might consider yourself lucky, I`ll go with do not judge a book by it`s cover. Then again it might depend on what part of town your in. A tip, never let your gas guage go below 1/4 of a tank.

  • robert maurer posted at 9:52 am on Wed, Feb 13, 2013.

    mason day Posts: 488

    Excellent posts! When I was growing up, my mom used to tell me "never judge a book by its cover", when it came to people.

  • Kevin Paglia posted at 7:07 am on Wed, Feb 13, 2013.

    Kevin Paglia Posts: 2115

    A very important message. Thank you for reminding us Ms. Edsell.

    Too many times it becomes easy to associate everyone with the worst we think of. CHOOSING to see people as individuals and not judging them based on actions of others can make this world a little better.


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