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Posted: Tuesday, April 2, 2013 12:00 am

My husband and I have been married for four years. During that time frame, we have tried to have a baby — without success. Now we are looking into adoption. However, when we heard the cost of adopting a child, it slipped through our grasp and dashed our hopes.

Are you aware that the cost of adopting a child is more then purchasing a new vehicle? There is no wonder why there are so many children in the foster care system.

Also what we find saddening is that a woman can go down and have an abortion, and that is cheaper then adoption. Now, something is seriously wrong there. It should be the opposite.

Jennifer Harding

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4 comments:

  • Ed Walters posted at 2:36 pm on Sun, Apr 7, 2013.

    the old dog Posts: 519

    Ms. Harding: I have never been in your position and after 3 kids I finally figured out where they come from. With the cost of (buying) a kid and if your in your late 30`s, do your self and your husband a big favor, adopt a dog and save yourself the first 18 years of grief, actually it never goes away, not actually grief, make that worry. Take it from someone that knows. Hey, no offence.[smile]

     
  • Jerome Kinderman posted at 4:50 am on Wed, Apr 3, 2013.

    Jerome R Kinderman Posts: 2350

    Abortion cheaper than adoption? In most cases, destroying a perfectly healthy unborn American child is free. This is the value we place on human life in the United States of America today – they are worthless. Of course I agree that the birth mother (in adoption cases) should not be saddled with costs that she cannot afford; especially if such expenses would instead have her turn to abortion as a solution to the predicament she finds herself in. On the other hand, at what point do "expenses" turn into "extortion?"

    Then we have our friendly neighborhood lawyers who charge steep fees for filling out paperwork and properly filing them with the courts and other governmental agencies. Yes, they understand the difficult pathway to a successful adoption and to get where they are as successful attorneys they had to invest heavily in their educations to do their jobs.

    What happens though to the potential adoptive parents when the birth mother decides to keep her baby once she holds the infant in her arms and falls instantly and forever in love - and from what I can tell, this happens quite often (why wouldn’t it)? The birth mother keeps her baby and is under no obligation to reimburse the now baby-less couple for those expenses paid during the pregnancy; and of course the lawyers keep their fees as well. The people who tried to adopt a child but ultimately failed - along with the baby – are the only “innocents” in this scenario.

    So what's the solution? Abolish abortion and let Planned Parenthood (or other such agencies) foot the bill for ALL those fees and expenses. If the birth mother reneges, make sure she signed a contract at the outset of the process that would obligate her to reimburse the agency. There should be little or no cost to the adoptive parents as they would be signing on to a lifetime of expense as they love and raise to adulthood a very fortunate child.

    Except for minimal but necessary oversight keep the government out of the process.

     
  • Quan Pham posted at 11:48 am on Tue, Apr 2, 2013.

    qpham63 Posts: 31

    Lots of luck to you. Please don't give up. You can make a difference in a child/children's life/lives by taking them in and giving them love. As Trista have stated, foster to adopt will help you with cost.

     
  • trista aquino posted at 2:44 am on Tue, Apr 2, 2013.

    trista aquino Posts: 106

    You have to "foster to adopt." Its almost the same thing as adoption but as the name implies, I think its a more of a gradual process. A friend of mine adopted 4 kids, all from the same family, and he gets $3600/month, food benefits and you wouldn't believe how much in taxes- more than what the avg child tax credits total. It started w/ daytime functions, then every other weekend, then like a 2 week thing, then after a total of about 6 months, all the papers were signed, court appearances met and the new family took it on full time from here on out.
    Anyways he said when you just 'adopt' you end up paying.

     

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