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Posted: Saturday, February 4, 2012 12:00 am | Updated: 6:25 am, Sat Feb 4, 2012.

Once again the media has vilified a wonderful, caring and kind person, making her look incompetent and malicious — which she is not.

Dorothy "Dottie" Bernhoft has cared for my grandchildren, Jessie, 4, and Xitclali, 3, since they were infants. She has provided excellent loving care for my grandchildren. In addition, because of her preschool background, they have learned social skills as well as academic skills, which is beyond her job description of child care provider.

My grandchildren, who live with me, show absolutely no sign of abuse or mistreatment of any kind. They love going to Dottie's house, and we feel very comfortable and stress-free leaving them there. Any allegations are blown grossly out of context. Dottie would never do anything to jeopardize the safety and welfare of her charges.

This is a travesty that should not have happened to you, Dottie. We trust you and we love you. We are keeping you in our hearts and prayers during this difficult time. I am most certain your innate love and respect for children will prevail.

Jennifer Souder Molina

Lodi

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58 comments:

  • Kim Lee posted at 1:54 am on Sun, Feb 12, 2012.

    Kim Lee Posts: 1798

    Kevin Paglia wrote, "I routinely left my kids in their car seats when they were that young. If they were so tired that I could pull that big ol' thing out of the car and carry them into the house, then I wasn't going to disturb them. I would put them next to me as i worked so when they woke up I could get them out of their seat easily. One of my kids liked the seat so well that they would toddle on over to it and climb in it to sleep sometimes."
    ------------------
    Me too, Kevin! And I'm glad someone finally said it. I would often leave my little sweet pea in her car seat when she fell asleep. Have you all seen the infant car seats? They are plush and oh so comfy. No infant is being harmed by sleeping in her car seat. And most of us do like a darkened room when we snooze. I believe there is most likely way more to the story here and too many are jumping to conclusions. I'll wait for the investigation to conclude before I crucify this daycare provider. And the police said that there were no children harmed, so why is anyone devastated?

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 8:40 am on Wed, Feb 8, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Cathy stated...Applied a diaper rash ointment to infants to hide any rash the child may have sustained while wearing the same diaper all day."

    interesting point Cathy. How would the person who wrote this know for a fact that the childcare provider intended to hide something... sounds like the person who wrote the report had subjectively drawn that conclusion and interpreted it in a sinister way. Maybe there was a bias here. This might indicate that other interpretations are bias as well.

    So again the point is, lets wait and let the "real" evidence come to light before making judgements. The welfare of the children should be the focus as well as Dottie who is the accused.

     
  • Cathy Siegmund posted at 7:12 am on Wed, Feb 8, 2012.

    CJS Posts: 6

    Correction: "Accused" and "before proven guilty".

     
  • Cathy Siegmund posted at 6:52 am on Wed, Feb 8, 2012.

    CJS Posts: 6

    Once again, I cannot go without commenting. I do encourage all of you to read the document referenced by "E Welsh". Pay particular attention to Page 8 (4): "Applied a diaper rash ointment to infants to hide any rash the child may have sustained while wearing the same diaper all day." I would hope that any caregiver WOULD apply an ointment to HELP the child. By no fault of the parents nor caregiver, a child could have sensative skin and developed a rash. Does something like this, written in a legal document, perhaps, have you question whether or not the accuser might be innocent before being proven guilty????

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 4:56 pm on Tue, Feb 7, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Ms Bobin stated...Again - Mr. Baumbach tries to imply that the state investigators did not witness any "real" facts. Amazing!

    Did not state that at all Ms Bobin... just as E Welch stated... he/she wants to find out what happened..which means all the facts are not in.

    Please have the patience to let both sides of the situation figure it all out.

     
  • Joanne Bobin posted at 3:40 pm on Tue, Feb 7, 2012.

    Joanne Bobin Posts: 4488

    Mr. Baumbach wrote: "Exactly my point from day one... thank you for this post! Let the "real" facts come out before making judgement." Again - Mr. Baumbach tries to imply that the state investigators did not witness any "real" facts. Amazing!

    Seems to me these four individuals witnessed 4 /12 hours worth of facts.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 2:08 pm on Tue, Feb 7, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    E Welsh stated...None of you know the facts because you didn't have children there like I did. Let us take care of our children and find out what happened. All of us want this to be a big misunderstanding

    Exactly my point from day one... thank you for this post! Let the "real" facts come out before making judgement.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 7:40 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Andrew stated...Darrell... You don't know the "FACTS"!

    “ OF COURSE”... that is what I have saying all along. I do not have the facts. You on the other hand think you have the facts when in reality, you have second hand information since you were not there.

    I do not have the "real" facts... you do not have the real facts. No one in this thread has the real facts. That is why you look the fool Andrew. You really think you are factual when in reality, your contribution has been no better that spreading rumor and gossip. You should be ashamed.

    Thank you for deciding not to participate as we can have a more reasonable discussion. In reality, silence and patience to wait for the "real facts" would be more appropriate. I hope this tread and its rumor spreading can simply disappear.

     
  • Andrew Liebich posted at 7:15 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Andrew Liebich Posts: 2999

    Darrell,
    You don't know the "FACTS"! Although there are those who may want to endure your pathetic opinionated rather than informed commentary I do not. I will no longer be participating in this festival of ignorance atmosphere you are attempting to fascilitate.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 6:09 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405


    Andrew... you again miss my point completely. What you state might be true... I am not saying you are wrong. I am saying there are not enough "FACTS" known to know one way or the other what ttruth is. I prefer to wait and have real evidence.


    Do you remember to McMartin preschool case? Everyone had the proof and evidence that these people were guilty.
    The McMartin preschool case was an example of day care sexual abuse hysteria. Members of the McMartin family, who operated a preschool in California, were charged with sexual abuse of children in their care. After six years of criminal trials, no convictions were obtained, and all charges were dropped in 1990. Just because you “think” you know something does not make it true. Just because Andrew has a niece who attended this daycare does not mean Andrew knows truth...

     
  • Andrew Liebich posted at 5:33 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Andrew Liebich Posts: 2999

    Ms. Bobin,
    Being ignorant – that is to say, uninformed or lacking knowledge – may have some genetic basis for certain people (example:Darrell). In this situation, his ignorance has to be excused as a preexisting condition not entirely within his control as he obviously don't aspire to improve his situation. Unfortunately, those of us who do know certain things about this case aren't currently willing or able to disclose them. Instead, we must endure Darrell's pathetic opinionated rather than informed commentary.

     
  • Betty Dean posted at 5:29 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Betty Dean Posts: 144

    I agree, 8 infants and being 66 years old whewwww, I am alot younger than that and I would NEVER take on that task! I dont care how good of shape you are in that is alot of work even with another adult in the house....... mark this , it is probably the only thing I have EVER agreed with Bobin on.........

     
  • Betty Dean posted at 5:25 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Betty Dean Posts: 144

    My point, Kevin, if your baby was asleep and next to you in his carseat, that is fine he was right next to you. I couldnt even imagine my 2 year old grandson being confined to his carseat while he was awake! You are his/her Parent and if the house is quiet they will sleep. If you walk into a house full of kids at 7:00 a.m. I would bet their litttle eyes would pop open. Even in a quiet house they will sleep but, you were right there in case they woke up and you are the parent. She was NOT a parent to these children and in my opinion had NO business making that decision.When you are being paid for a service especially with someones Child, you need to take that seriously and know the difference between what their Mom/ Dad can do and what a daycare provider can and should do. If the babyor babies were alseep she should have been sitting right there with them.

     
  • Jared Parkinson posted at 5:13 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Jared Parkinson Posts: 1

    Andrew Liebich said...The highest form of ignorance is when one rejects something they don't know anything about. Anyone can read CDSS No. 7012032101. The document is public record. As I stated previously, "It is better to confess your ignorance than to continue providing it."

    Andrew since you so eager to state your clarity of the situation would you be so kind as to post how to find the CDSS Report No. 7012032101 and help all of us ignoramuses. I have looked on the CDSS website and do not see any public access to the report you mention. I have however seen the one which the sentinel posted http://www.lodinews.com/news/pdf_04b13918-4e9f-11e1-b2a1-001871e3ce6c.html
    This Complaint Control Number is 03-CC-20120127150926
    It's just me but I haven't heard the media report of a second report and the number you listed doesn't even appear to be in the same format as the one I know does exist.
    So as far as I'm concerned your denunciations of anyone who gives Mrs. Bernhoft the benefit of the doubt is nothing more than a straw man until you can site your sources.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 4:03 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Ms Bobin... the example below is just an illustration and not something I think actually happened. If something like this did happen, it is purely a coincidence and I was not peeping through your window.
    I know you constantly see bigots around every corner in Lodi as you have stated, I do not wish to add to your misery and now cause you to see peeping Toms as well.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 3:55 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Ms Bobin stated... So, Mr. Docktor is saying that the state investigators just made up the whole thing? What they saw the day of their unannounced visit was a figment of their imagination?

    Please Ms Bobin... You must realize that are more possibilities than the investigator just made the whole thing up.

    Let me think???????????????????????????????????????

    Well, it is possible that the investigator misunderstood and made up a report she/he felt was accurate.

    For example... What if an investigator came into your house and saw you mouth to mouth with your mailman on the floor... this investigator then stared and heard a loud groan as if in deep pleasure...from the man you were mouth to mouth with.
    The investigator leaves this scene ( after a five minute observation) and immediate reports to the postal center an indecent mailman in your company... only to later learn that the mailman had fainted and you were performing mouth to mouth resuscitation and fortunately saved his life....

    In this case, did the inspector make it all up?... or mistaken?

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 3:42 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Ms Bobin stated...There goes Mr. Baumbach talking down to everyone he disagrees with again. Sorry, Mr. Baumbach, I didn't realize you were the only intelligent person in the room..

    There she goes again... I have said many times Ms Bobin, I do not consider myself intelligent. I leave that to people like you who obviously have a higher IQ than I... No, I am simply observing and making comments. I try the best I can to objectively assess a situation instead of emotionally spurting out things like yourself. I think you tend to know truth and the answers to things before it reasonable to know as if you have a magic crystal ball. You don't happen to have a deck of Tarot cards Ms bobin? Do you?

     
  • Joanne Bobin posted at 2:59 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Joanne Bobin Posts: 4488

    Mr. Docktor wrote: (on another thread)
    "Ms. Bobin,
    1 or 2 children over the limit? Seems to me that's all they really have. Of course she's guilty before beiing proven innocent in your eyes. Take a hike, Bobin. You're a sad example for a human."

    So, Mr. Docktor is saying that the state investigators just made up the whole thing? What they saw the day of their unannounced visit was a figment of their imagination? Did you read the entire complaint that was published Friday on this website?

    It is very telling that Ms. Bernhoft suddenly reversed her decision to keep her license "inactive" until 2 months ago - probably when a parent asked to see it.

    As for "1 or 2 over the limit" - that was probably only on the day she got caught. I have known of daycare providers who "hide" children at neighbors' homes on the days they are expecting a PLANNED visit from the state.

    This woman had 8 INFANTS and one two-year old. She may be an extremely active 66 year-old, but 8 infants can be very taxing - unless, of course, you strap them in a car seat and stick them in a closet and turn up all the radios so you can't hear them crying.

    To say that you condone this type of activity makes you not a "sad example of a human being," but a complete idiot.

     
  • Joanne Bobin posted at 2:56 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Joanne Bobin Posts: 4488

    Mr. Baumbach wrote: "Andrew, Steve, Ms Bobin, and Alex.... you read an article in the paper and claim to know truth. Thank you for making obvious how meaningless and immature your comments are."

    Immature? There goes Mr. Baumbach talking down to everyone he disagrees with again. Sorry, Mr. Baumbach, I didn't realize you were the only intelligent person in the room!

    Actually, the complaint filed by the state was posted on the LNS website on Friday. And unless the 4 investigators are making it all up, I think we can make an intelligent assessment that what they saw personally is the truth.

    If I can remember back about 22 years, INFANTS cannot TALK - that's why some parents put cameras in their homes when they suspect their nannies of abuse - and a lot of them have been caught red-handed.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 2:51 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Jeff stated... The situation is much more emotional when you are a part of it, or know someone who was.

    Exactly my point Jeff. The reaction is an emotional one that is almost to the point of irrational... This is why I was calling for patience in order to calmly look at the event. No body was fed bugs... no one was chained to a wall and whipped... no one was bullied and beaten... no one was sexually abused...however, the reaction here is like these things happened.

    I am glad you and your friends are concerned and want to get to the bottom of this. However, so far, the imagination and fear is dominating the emotions and Dottie and her family deserve better in my opinion.

    May I ask... if this turns out to be all about nothing and Dottie was a good childcare giver, what will you do to rebuild her reputation? What will your friends do? Will there be justice for her if she did nothing wrong?

     
  • Kevin Paglia posted at 2:11 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Kevin Paglia Posts: 2048

    I routinely left my kids in their car seats when they were that young. If they were so tired that I could pull that big ol' thing out of the car and carry them into the house, then I wasn't going to disturb them. I would put them next to me as i worked so when they woke up I could get them out of their seat easily.

    One of my kids liked the seat so well that they would toddle on over to it and climb in it to sleep sometimes.

     
  • Jeff Tillett posted at 12:23 pm on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Jeff Tillett Posts: 551

    I understand what you are saying Darrell, but understand what Andrew and I are saying.. we know many of these parents and kids. The situation is much more emotional when you are a part of it, or know someone who was. My wife's phone was ringing off the hook last week from frantic moms needing to find a new day care facility. And you know finding out, just the possibility, that you put your child in situation of neglect, however slight, is the biggest punch to the gut a parent can take. I do know this family, and have thought the world of them, as have all of their clients, passed and present, until this and it has been very perplexing and anguishing. But in hindsight many pieces of the puzzle are fitting together.

     
  • Betty Dean posted at 11:56 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Betty Dean Posts: 144

    BTW, I happen to have 3 Adult Children all well adjusted and 2 Grandchildren who are also well adjusted. I dont even leave my grandchildren in their carseats I move them into a port-a -crib that I have for them at my house.If they act up I call their parents and tell them to come and pick them up. Which brings up a point, why didnt she just call the parent and say your baby does not seem happy today and maybe dosent feel well, could you please come and pick him/her up?

     
  • Betty Dean posted at 11:50 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Betty Dean Posts: 144

    We could "what if" all day long. If my uncle had breasts he would be my Aunt ha ha ! Even if the baby was asleep, I wouldnt say, "Oh just stiick him in a closet until he wakes up". Besides with all the other kids they would likely wake up anyway.
    Either way this lady is in BIG trouble, Her Husband is a Therapist ??? I think it is really sad that these kids had to go through this and "If" she did this it is wrong!

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 11:47 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Thank you Jeff. As for me, I was very involved with my three children. All are out in society and grown. Two sons and one daughter.

    I was very protective as was my wife. I was always involved in their lives and coached baseball, basketball and flag football. I always wanted the best for them . In fact, we ( my wife and I) rarely went out or did anything for years unless it involved the children as our children were our lives. Once my youngest was 13, we starting doing some things without them.

    In the case with Dottie, nothing published concerns me in the least. If when the real facts present themselves and something did happen, I would feel badly for the children and be glad the daycare was closed. However, I also know that people can be railroaded and appearances can be deceiving. I think Dottie and her family deserve respect and should be given time to explain and tell their side of the story .People should not be considered guilty from day one... I am simply asking for patience.

     
  • Steve Schmidt posted at 11:34 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Steve Schmidt Posts: 2570

    Darrell, I will repeat Jeff's question. Do you have children?

    And, before you ask, I do have two kids who are quite well adjusted. Of course, I am blessed in that my children are cared for by my Dad who conveniently lives very close by. I have 18 years of direct experience of my fathers child care methods and I can say that I cannot imagine a better caregiver for my kids.

     
  • Jeff Tillett posted at 11:16 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Jeff Tillett Posts: 551

    Yes, my child is well adjusted. My child also never went to this day care. She almost did though. Hindsight we know is 20-20, and as the facts of these allegations come to light, some parents are getting answers to some behaviors, like a close friend: now I know why my child has so much separation anxiety when I try to leave her...

    This reason why I asked, is the answer changes all perspective on this situation. Before my daughter I probably wouldn't really care or be invested in this situation; i probably would not even comment on it. But now, things are different. I know most of those kids that were there, and their parents. I could have been one of them. Perspectives change.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 10:46 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Betty Dean stated...A decent daycare provider would put a child in a port-a-crib or a chair, that is an appropriate time out...

    What if the parent delivered their child in their own car seat and the child was sound asleep. What if the parent asked Dottie to not wake the child. What if the parent went into the closet and placed the child there with Dottie? What if ?... what if ? ... I am just guessing... do not know the facts. There could be any number of explanations . Since Dottie has an attorney, I'm sure the lawyer would advise her to say nothing, even to defend herself. Maybe everyone should chill a bit and wait for "truth" to reveal itself.

     
  • Betty Dean posted at 10:16 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Betty Dean Posts: 144

    I do feel that a daycare liscense is important. I would not leave my Children in the care of a stranger unless they had a liscense. This is a law that they must have a valid liscense. Especially when you are leaving your Child at any age. I personally would NOT want my child strapped in a carseat for discipline ! A decent daycare provider would put a child in a port-a-crib or a chair, that is an appropriate time out.

     
  • Andrew Liebich posted at 10:10 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Andrew Liebich Posts: 2999

    No Darrell. Andrew has a niece who attended this daycare and Andrew knows a whole lot more about the whole matter than you are willing to acknowledge.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 9:21 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Andrew stated...As appalled as I am by your idiotic comments they pale in comparison to the treatment these innocent children received.

    So Andrew reads a report...then concludes it is truth. I read a report, then conclude it is the opinion of the person writing the report subject to error and misunderstandings. We obviously have different standards in accepting what truth is.

    We really could save a boat load full of money in our legal system if we followed Andrew's inclination. Just have a report written by a government official, determine guilt or innocence based on that report, get rid of the attorneys, juries, trials, evidence, courts and hang um high.. then get rid of the prisons that would have been so costly.
    After all, this woman had the nerve to play music with children in her home... yes... the death penalty is in order. Right Andrew?

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 9:07 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Jeff stated...Darrell, I'm not being flippant, but do you have children?

    Jeff, before I answer that question, please answer my question. Do you have children that are well adjusted? Of course, as you, I am not being flippant. Just curious.

     
  • Andrew Liebich posted at 8:46 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Andrew Liebich Posts: 2999

    The highest form of ignorance is when one rejects something they don't know anything about. Anyone can read CDSS No. 7012032101. The document is public record. As I stated previously, "It is better to confess your ignorance than to continue providing it."

     
  • Jeff Tillett posted at 8:19 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Jeff Tillett Posts: 551

    Darrell, I'm not being flippant, but do you have children?

     
  • Steve Schmidt posted at 7:49 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Steve Schmidt Posts: 2570

    Cathy you are apparently either unwilling or unable to read my remarks (below). I know this because, IF YOU HAD, you would have seen everything I said was conditional on the charges against Ms Bernhoft being proven.

    Since you seem to be incapable of engaging in a reasonable discussion on this subject perhaps it is best if you just simmer down and hold your peace.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 7:00 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Jeff... I'm sorry if anyone experienced real devastation. I personally would not have been devastated with the information presented.

    For example, If my child had been put in a car seat for 5 minutes with lights on and soft music as a form of "time out", I would not have objected. If my child had been put in a car seat in a dark closet for an hour with no stimulation that caused fear, then I would be angry. So until I knew what actually happened, I would not be devastated.
    If I had my child there on a daily basis and my child was happy, I would give the benefit of the doubt to the child care provider and not experience unwarranted devastation as if something bad happened. I would find out what happened and see if anything actually took place. I would not assume the government employee was accurate. For example, the employee stated that music was played making it difficult for Dottie to hear children calling out. That may or may not not be true.
    Maybe Dottie's hearing is much better than the workers. I do not know.

    As far as Dottie having a license or not, I would not care. I care that Dottie would provide a safe place that love and care is given.

     
  • Cathy Siegmund posted at 6:46 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    CJS Posts: 6

    Steve: You have absolutely no idea what led to the investigation. Most of you are jumping to conclusions. You do not know Dottie. I do!!! I will not be commenting again, because it is so sad that people like you are ready to call someone guilty before they are proven!!!

     
  • Steve Schmidt posted at 5:15 am on Mon, Feb 6, 2012.

    Steve Schmidt Posts: 2570

    Betty, it seems someone did make an unannounced visit and that is what led to the state's intervention.

     
  • Betty Dean posted at 11:52 pm on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Betty Dean Posts: 144

    I am wondering why Parents were not making unannounced visits to check on their children? I am also wondering why they did not check her liscense status before hiring her to care for their children? These are things that I would do as a parent.
    Why someone would put a child in a closet for ANY reason no matter how big or small strapped IN their carseat is a CRIME!
    I NEVER trusted anyone to care for my children ever, when my children were small I worked evenings and my Husband worked days, this also saved us money because we didnt have to pay a sitter.
    I am not putting any blame on the parents or implying that this is ok at all, but we need to protect out children, they are our responsibility. I would pop in to check on my children at different times and unannounced. I hope that if this is true she will have criminal charges brought too her. Very sad for the children.............

     
  • Jeff Tillett posted at 7:56 pm on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Jeff Tillett Posts: 551

    Darrell talk to my friends who have been devestated by this. They all have been a mess all week. The word was used correctly, and you are right, there is some uncertainty, but the situation, and subsequent disruption, is very real. I also think it's fair to say not all were satisfied with the care that was actually provided.

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 4:30 pm on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Mr Tillett stated...But it is illegal to confine children in car seats, it is illegal to employ someone in child care without fingerprinting, and it is illegal to operate a day care without a license. Period...

    If the children were safe, loved, cared for, unharmed in any way and the parents are well satisfied with her performance, I think it silly to say one could be devastated. There is not enough information made available to make any judgments "YET".

    As far as legal or not, there are 11 million in our country illegally and some going to school where Mr Tillet teaches. If Mr Tillett is so bent on following the letter of the law, I wonder how many calls to 911 he has made to report illegal immigrants... “PERIOD”.. appears to me that Mr Tillett is selective in which laws he wants enforced.

     
  • Jeff Tillett posted at 3:07 pm on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Jeff Tillett Posts: 551

    The weird thing in all of this, as reported in the record, was her license being active/inactive. Theyreported that she reopened the daycare in december. This is not true. She never stopped taking children, specifically those of my coworkers, and almost my child. I do believe she, and her whole family are great, wonderful people. I I also believe that the actions sound more horrific than they actually were. But it is illegal to confine children in car seats, it is illegal to employ someone in child care without fingerprinting, and it is illegal to operate a day care without a license. Period. And as a parent I would be devestated to have to go through all of this, as my friends are.

     
  • Steve Schmidt posted at 2:35 pm on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Steve Schmidt Posts: 2570

    Hmmm... Brian, could it possibly be because the budget for state organizations like this one have been slashed to the bone?

    Nah.....that couldn't possibly have anything to do with it. Nope.

     
  • Brian Dockter posted at 1:58 pm on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Brian Dockter Posts: 2850

    http://www.recordnet.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20120204/A_NEWS/202040331&cid=dmc

    Here's the article in the Stockton Record. Like I said in a prior post, some of the allegations are a little over the top. And Darrell is right. why would it take nearly a month and a half had the children been in danger?

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 11:52 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Andrew, Steve, Ms Bobin, and Alex.... you read an article in the paper and claim to know truth. Thank you for making obvious how meaningless and immature your comments are.

    The complaint was filed with the state in early December, 2011, and a visit was not done until January 31st 2012. Does not sound like they perceived it as urgent. In addition, the meeting took 4 and ½ hours... not 4 and 1/2 minutes . The state also said they “might” file charges... “might”... That means the children most likely were not in danger as the interview wouldn't have lasted so long and the state would have already filed charges.

    We were not at the this home. We do not know fact. Lets wait for more information to come out before making judgment. The state employee could have been a honest person and described the event accurately, or the state employee could have been mistaken as to what actually happened... there have not been any reports of any child harmed or hurt.

    You are all behaving like hateful children instead of rational thinking adults. PLEASE refrain from convicting the accused from a simple newspaper story.

     
  • Alex Kennedy posted at 10:50 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Alex Posts: 215

    Seems to me the only thing this lazy heartless monster did right was to restrain the babies in car seats so they wouldn't hurt themselves in the darkened dungeons she created for them.

     
  • Alex Kennedy posted at 10:42 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Alex Posts: 215

    This (expletive) woman placed infants in dark rooms, closets, and bathrooms while playing music to drown out their cries. I don't care who vouches for her character, she is every working mom's nightmare. The fact is she was caught in the act by investigators. If I was one of the parents called away from work to pick up my child, I would have been arrested for assault. There is no excuse for the conditions these babies were found in.

     
  • Steve Schmidt posted at 10:20 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Steve Schmidt Posts: 2570

    Hmmm... I'm with Andrew on this one. If even a fraction of the allegations made against this woman are true, she needs to end her participation in the child care industry. If the bulk of the allegations are true, she probably needs to go to jail.

    What sort of person locks infants in dark closets?????

     
  • Andrew Liebich posted at 9:54 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Andrew Liebich Posts: 2999

    As an uncle to one of the children involved I have read the "FACTUAL ALLEGATIONS" contained in CDSS No. 7012032101 as submitted by the LEGAL DIVISION of the Department of Social Services. Mr. Dockter, Mr. Baumbach and Ms. Siegmund, It is better to confess your ignorance than to continue providing it. As appauled as I am by your idiotic comments they pale in comparison to the treatment these innocent children received.

     
  • Brian Dockter posted at 9:32 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Brian Dockter Posts: 2850

    You're right Steve. I misread the letter. But the allegations by social services in the Stockton Record seem to be a little over the top. We'll just have to see. I can see a certain amount of respect by the LNS for not reitterating what the Record reported. However, it's just another indication how the LNS attempts to not cover the whole story. So many times have I found more information about happenings in Lodi in the Record.

     
  • Steve Schmidt posted at 9:17 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Steve Schmidt Posts: 2570

    I don't know Ms Bernhoft and I don't have a horse in this race.

    That said, Brian, I believe the Ms Souder Molina (the letter writer) said that Ms Bernhoft cared for Ms Souder Molina's grandchildren.

     
  • Brian Dockter posted at 8:59 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Brian Dockter Posts: 2850

    Even Channel 10 mentioned one does not need a daycare license to provide daycare for family members in their story. Yep ,it was Channel 10 who jumped the gun on this situation. Perhaps their ratings have been down lately.

     
  • Brian Dockter posted at 8:43 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Brian Dockter Posts: 2850


    Ms. Bobin wrote:

    Is it just me, or did the letter writer just admit that Ms. Bernhoft provided daycare for her grandchildren while Ms. Bernhoft's daycare license was "inactive?"

    -There you have it folks. Ms. Bobin is unaware one does not need a daycare license to provide daycare for family members. I think Ms. Bobin should bow out of this discussion before she loses ALL credibility.

     
  • Brian Dockter posted at 8:04 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Brian Dockter Posts: 2850

    Ms. Bobin has sunk to a new low. The short video they showed of the lady opening the door to the news man revealed to me this lady had nothing to be ashamed of.
    It seems to me the incident that may have taken place in the house with children being placed in the closet was taken out of context. How long were these children placed in the closet?

     
  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 7:28 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    Cathy... its been a long time since we talked.... I know you are a good person and a good judge of character. I trust your comments as it relates to Dotty Bernhoff.

    As far as Ms Bobin, please ignore her. She has stated many times that she sees bigots around every corner in Lodi. I wouldn't be surprised to discover that Ms Bobin is posting comments while confined to a mental health facility.

     
  • Cathy Siegmund posted at 6:46 am on Sun, Feb 5, 2012.

    CJS Posts: 6

    The "Letter Writer" wrote a very nice piece here that truly shows the WONDERFUL person Dottie Bernhoft is . It's too bad you have people in this world who comment on someone they know absolutely nothing about with their "negative" and "hurtful" responses.

     
  • Joanne Bobin posted at 11:51 pm on Sat, Feb 4, 2012.

    Joanne Bobin Posts: 4488

    Is it just me, or did the letter writer just admit that Ms. Bernhoft provided daycare for her grandchildren while Ms. Bernhoft's daycare license was "inactive?"

    Social skills? Does the learning of social skills not begin at home anymore?


     
  • Cathy Siegmund posted at 10:30 pm on Sat, Feb 4, 2012.

    CJS Posts: 6

    I have lived next to Dorothy "Dottie" Bernhoft for more than 15 years. There is absolutely NO one I would trust more with my grandson than Dottie. I know she would be the absolute LAST person to ever harm a child. You could not find two better people than Dottie and her husband, Franklin!!!!

     

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