Dear T2T: I’m 17 years old and I need some advice on what do with my relationship. I’ve been talking to this girl for about year now, we just started dating a couple of weeks ago. I like her a lot, and I think I have really strong feelings for her at this point.
But here’s the problem. I dropped out of high school this year, and I am now pursuing to get my GED. I currently have a job working with my dad making a pretty decent sum of money for 17 year old ($350 per week).
I just bought my first car, and life is going pretty well for me right now. The thing is I feel like I don’t have enough time for my girlfriend. She even tells me all the time, “Why don’t you ever have enough time for me?”
I tell her things are pretty busy where I work, and I’ve been studying my ass off lately. It seems like she doesn’t care at all and only wants me to be about her all the time. Sometimes I get really anxious and just feel trapped. Just so many things are going on at one time.
She gets mad at me when I want to take naps during the day from a hard day at work, or go to sleep early when I have to work in the morning. I feel like I can never please her! All I want is a happy girlfriend, that’s all. — Wrong or nah?
Dear wrong or nah: Thank you for coming to us with your problem. It’s hard to balance education, work and having time with your girlfriend. We believe that she should understand where you are coming from. It’s a good thing that you are trying to get your life together. She should support your decision of going back to school as well as having a stable job.
You should think of your future in the long run because as a teenager, many things will change as you get older whether you like it or not. As long as you are trying to put time aside for her, she should respect that and take it into consideration. Don’t let her change your ways.
It’s a good thing that you have a good paying job at as a teen because it’ll be very helpful in your future and maybe even open up more opportunities for better jobs. Having a job and education is the most important element to have in your life because that is what matters to you because you should not throw what you have right now away just for someone that is probably temporary in your life.
She will not be there to pay for your bills in the future. You should be proud of yourself that you are getting your life back together with a job and if she can’t accept the fact that you won’t be able to give you her attention 24/7 then she is probably not the one for you. — Sincerely, Teens 2 Teens
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