Dear Straight Talk: As a certified “babe magnet” at a large high school, for all you girls interested in guys like me, could you please be a little harder to get? When a girl lets me have it too early, it is actually a turn off. I know you get mixed messages, but I assure you, most “bad boys” find it exotic when you say no. If we like you, it gives us a challenge. If we don’t, we respect you for standing up to our charades. Despite what might be said, we do not think you are a lesbian or prudish if you say no, we think you are interesting and strong. — “J,” Anderson, Calif.

Kira, 20, Moraga: Fascinating. I’d have never guessed. Most guys go for the easy girls. If they’re looking for a girl who says “no,” they definitely hide that. It’s not just college. In high school, a popular guy wanted to hook up. I wasn’t as popular, but I played sports and had a lot of friends. When I said “no,” he dissed me to his friends and was a complete jerk for the longest time afterward.