Dear Straight Talk: I wrote my friend a bad note, cussing her out for the way she hurts my feelings. I regret it deeply, as I almost lost a good friend. After much apologizing, she finally forgave me. The problem is, now I’m walking on eggshells. I want to bring up the way she hurts my feelings, like looking at me like I’m stupid when I ask or say things, and taking a rude, uncaring attitude toward me, but I don’t want to blow up again and lose her over a dumb action. When I approach her nicely about these things, she either gets an attitude, or sometimes listens nicely but doesn’t change. What can I do? — Age 15 in Falling Waters, West Virginia
Brandon, 22, Mapleton, Maine: This kind of thing happened to me a LOT. “Friend” bullying is a huge issue right now. Some people make a friendship only about themselves and have no problem belittling their friends. Their friends’ suffering makes some of them feel great. You’ll be in bed crying over their rudeness and they act like nothing happened and have no remorse. These people have psychological problems. Do yourself a favor and remove such negativity from your life. It may hurt initially, but you’ll feel better in the long run. Or take a break. Time may mend the problem, or you learn it’s unfixable.
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