Dear Straight Talk: My roommate and best friend is torn between two lovers. She finds her boyfriend, “Raf,” dull so she is cheating on him with “Sevan” who is less serious about her. I’m pretty shocked by her lack of ethics and tell her to break up with both of them, but she never does! Raf visits frequently and is seriously in love with her. It kills me to see this lie carried out under his nose. These are jealous, passionate men and I worry about what might happen if he finds out. I don’t want to lose my best friend over this, but I can’t look Raf in the eye anymore. She expects me to go along with everything. What should I do? — “Sarah,” Glendale
Breele, 19, Dana Point: I was involved in a similar situation. My best friend had a boyfriend plus a secret guy on the side she was madly in love with. I was very caught up in the lies, manipulations and tension. Due to the tension, the boyfriend was constantly over at our place and the three of us did a lot together — which I hated it because it was such a lie. I first tried to detach, saying, “No thanks, you guys go do that without me.” But then THEY wouldn’t go out either! They would also both text me constantly when we weren’t together. I told her a million times how badly she was treating her boyfriend. Finally, I told her how badly she was treating HERSELF. I told her I couldn’t look HER in the eye anymore and that if she didn’t change the situation, I was leaving. That worked.
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