Dear Straight Talk: I’m a high school freshman and very private about my body. I can’t handle anybody seeing me naked except my sister and my best friend. Not even my mom. Our gym teacher told us, with hot weather coming, everyone will have to shower, no exceptions! She says modesty is no excuse because “you’re all the same.” Our locker room ONLY has communal showers. I’m not overweight or anything, but I will die of embarrassment. I can barely handle changing into my gym clothes publicly. My sister (a junior) has no problem with the communal showers, so maybe I got this from my mom, whom we’ve never seen nude. Am I alone in wanting privacy? Please help! — Private in NorCal
Ochatre, 23, Kampala, Uganda: I played rugby through high school and university. Junior year, I joined a team that took communal showers. Being the smallest player, I was uncomfortable and always rushed to shower before the rest. I came to realize this was only making things more uncomfortable and I had to stop caring about what others might be imagining. We all face an inferiority complex, but the truth is everyone is minding their own business. Just love and appreciate yourself because you are made special.
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