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Girl caught in the crossfire between stepsister and best friend

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Posted: Friday, June 6, 2014 7:31 am

Dear Straight Talk: I’m really stressing. I’ve had my BFF (best friend forever) since elementary school. My stepsister has also become a good friend. She’s my age (16), goes to my school, and shares my room every other weekend. The three of us became great friends, hanging out and having sleepovers on the weekends my stepsister was here. However, they were rivals for the same guy, and my BFF won out. My stepsister falsely claims she “had him first” and that my BFF “stole him” and she now hates my BFF and spreads untrue, ugly rumors about her, causing my BFF to hate her back. Each expects me to take sides. My stepsister even told me to dump my BFF out of “family loyalty.” I refuse, thus sharing a room is very tense. My mom won’t let me see my BFF on the weekends my stepsister is here because that would be “abandoning” her. My BFF is going to remain my BFF, but I want a good relationship with my stepsister, too. Please help. — Caught in The Middle in Sacramento

Breele, 20, Dana Point: They both need to grow up! Personally, I’m a girl’s girl and if a friend likes a guy, she can have him. It’s not worth my friendship. I mean, this boyfriend will last how long? For a lifelong friendship?? Tell BFF and stepsister that you’re not dumping either of them and that this drama has nothing to do with you and they need to keep it to themselves. Tell stepsister how much it sucks to lose something and that some chilling from BFF is understandable. But also encourage her to get over it. (Honestly, get a hobby!) Regarding Mom, tell her you have it handled. Her taking sides is how parents lose respect. She wants to solidify a place in her stepdaughter’s heart, but this isn’t how you go about it.

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