In 2013, it’s just a fact that life will have its chaos. Most people have to work. Many have children who need to be run from school to the tutor and then to baseball. We have demands hitting us from people in ever corner of our life: Our spouses, our bosses, our kids, our doctors. Heck, sometimes even our friends complain that they feel abandoned in the friendship.
What gives? What’s a person to do?
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