Dear T2T: The past year for me has not been what I wanted it to be. I lost 5 of my friends in four months and my parents treat me like crap. My boyfriend cheated on me too.
I started cutting myself 2 years ago, but it wasn’t that bad until I lost my friends and then it just went downhill. I had to get 10 staples in my arm - that’s how deep I cut myself. I just didn’t know what to do. I have been good because I’m trying my best to quit. Do you have anything that could help me quit? I know that I really need to get a handle on this and I really do want to live. — Needing help
Dear Needing Help: I am really sorry for all of the hardships you are going through right now. Believe it or not, I know exactly what you are going through and I know how difficult it is because I have gone through the same situation that you are in right now.
I started out with many close friends all through elementary school who I thought would be my best friends forever and that they would always be there for me. I told and shared everything with them. But once I started junior high, all of them changed and made wrong decisions that I didn’t approve of. Because of my disapproval of them, they stopped being my friends.
My parents were also always going through a lot of drama ever since I was born and they always took their anger out on me and it made me feel like they hated me. Everything I did wrong or right, they were always disappointed in me because they expected me to be perfect.
I also had a boyfriend in my past who I was with for a while and he ended up flirting with other girls and cheated on me. All of these problems I went through were very hard and made me depressed for a long period of time. I had no one to talk to about my problems so I started to physically abuse myself to let my anger out.
The way that I dealt with my problems was I became friends with this girl I met towards the end of junior high and she was very nice. As I got to know her, I got to the point where I had to tell someone about my problems otherwise I would feel like killing myself. So I finally opened up to her and she became my best friend and helped and supported me up until this very day.
Things started to get better and I started to open up to my parents which made our relationship so much stronger and now I can tell them anything. Things got even better when I met my new boyfriend at the end of my sophomore year and he has helped and supported me a lot as well. He actually got me to stop hurting myself and gave me every reason to live. So my advice for your situation is, you should try talking to someone who you know will understand your problems. Friends come and go, but your true friends will find you in the end and be by your side for a lifetime.
Also try opening up to your parents. It may seem like they hate you, but I’m sure they really do love you and you just need to try and get closer to them. If you can’t talk to anyone, try seeing a counselor or support group. They can end up being your true friends.
As for your cheating boyfriend, just try and forget about him because you deserve way better. There are many fish in the sea and the right guy will find you at the right time. So just be patient because good things come to those who wait. I hope my advice helps you and that things get better for you soon like you deserve.
Remember, you’re not alone. You may feel miserable and worthless, but to me and the people who will eventually enter your life in the future, you’re worth everything.
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