Should I date a crush if it will hurt a friend?

Dear T2T: There is a guy at school who likes me and I like him back.

The problem is my best friend. She also likes him, even though she knows we like each other. I know that he wants to ask me out, but every time he tries, she makes some sort of scene so that it doesn’t happen.

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