I just started high school and my girlfriend is in 8th grade. My friends are giving me a lot a crap about it, but she is a cool chick. They think I should break up with her and that it’s weird I would even stay with her now that I have high school opportunities. What do you think? — Hmm
Response No. 1:
First off, we are very sorry to hear about your situation. Since you’re just beginning high school we know that trying to win everyone’s friendship is a big thing so you feel like you belong, but at the same time your friends shouldn’t influence your decision to not be with her either. But if they feel really strong that you shouldn’t be with her, then ask them why they feel that way. Aside your friends, how do your parents feel about your relationship with each other? Maybe they can help you out and give you some options from their perspective since “Mama knows best.” When it all comes down to it, it’s your guys’ feelings that matter the most. If you’re not feeling anything anymore then it’s probably best to just call it quits now before someone ends up getting hurt even more if the relationship goes on. Don’t be in the relationship if it doesn’t feel right, especially if you feel like you want to be in relationship just to be in one. Think about how things will be like when you’re off to college and she’s still in high school. If things don’t work out it’s not the end of the world. You guys can stay friends. You shouldn’t be worrying about being in a relationship in high school. Focus in school first. On the other hand, if you guys really feel like the relationship is worth it, then go for it.
Response No. 2:
Don’t worry about what other people think, it’s only a one year difference. If you guys can stay together for a year then before you know it she’ll be in high school too. Plus, upperclassmen are always dating underclass in high school and not to mention actual married couples and adults are usually a few years a part. If you’re worried about what you’re friends will say and think why not try talking to them about it? If they truly are your friends then they’ll understand where you’re coming from and they’ll support your decision. And when it comes to high school opportunities you’ll have plenty of them, you’re going to be here for 4 years.
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