Dear T2T: I’m a straight girl with a lesbian friend. We have been casual friends for a few years at school, but when she reached high school she decided she liked girls. Whatev for her, but she makes me uncomfortable because she is flirtatious with me. I’m not looking for trouble, but that isn’t my thing and I don’t really know how to handle it without making it super awk. Give me some good thoughts. — Uncomfortably annoyed
Response No. 1:
I can see why you would feel awkward and annoyed in this situation. Since you are only casual friends and you’re uncomfortable with her being flirtatious, maybe you should distance yourself. If you still want to be friends with her, maybe you should begin to joke about it. Usually by joking the situation can become less tense and more of a funny situation that will blow over. Since your friend is comfortable enough with you to tell you her sexual orientation, you should be comfortable enough around her to address the problem and set some ground rules. You seem to be making a bigger deal out of the situation than what it really is. Out of respect for your friend, you should talk to her. You should approach your friend and attempt to solve the problem. If you aren’t the confrontational type, you should text her or maybe write her a note explaining how you feel about her actions. It seems that you don’t want to lose the friendship. Addressing the problem calmly and politely could be what saves you from losing it all together. If your friend gets upset, be understanding. This could be embarrassing for her, at first. If she continues to flirt with you, maybe you should consider not being friends with her. This situation is awkward but it can be solved and your friendship can be salvaged. We wish you the best of luck and we hope whatever decision you make is the right one for you.
Response No. 2:
While you may feel uncomfortable with your friend, it’s still important to be honest with her, since she is your friend after all. If you feel your friendship is in jeopardy due to the flirting, then it is only fair that you tell her how you feel. If you guys really are friends, she should understand. Also, the Gay Straight Alliance club may be useful for advice or support. Bringing up the issue is the first step to solving it, so don’t be afraid to try and amend things between you two if you really feel uncomfortable.
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