Dear T2T: I am freaking out. My best friend’s ex-boyfriend likes me. He told me straight up to my face and I am freaking out that my BFF is going to find out and hate me. What should I do? — Freaking Out
Response No. 1:
I am so sorry that you’re in this situation. Personally, if I were in your situation, I would pull your friend aside and tell her. Yes, she may get mad but it’s better than her finding out from someone else in the future. She would appreciate it much more coming from you. But while telling her, don’t tell her in front of all your friends, or his friends. If you like him, she might understand but if you do not feel the same way about him then just tell her upfront or just tell him that you do not feel like that towards him. You should also talk to him about it as well. Tell him it is wrong, and you wouldn’t want to put your guys’ friendship in risk. A girl never wants to put a guy in the middle of a friendship. It is better than thinking you are going to lose someone you love as a best friend. Be honest, and as long as you are not hiding anything, you should be fine. Coming from your best friend’s point of view, she might be a little sensitive about the subject, so just take it simple and easy. But depending on your feelings towards him, it is your decision to talk to both of them.
Response No. 2:
Funny that you asked this because almost the same exact thing is happening to me right now. The only difference is that my ex likes my best friend. My boyfriend and I broke up a little over a month ago, and I found out a couple days ago that he likes my best friend because she was open and honest about it with me. I’ll admit when she told me I was a little mad but not at her. I felt betrayed by him I wasn’t mad at my friend because she was so honest with me she didn’t try to hide it. In my opinion, I think you should tell her what is going on so that she doesn’t find out from anyone else. I don’t know why or when your friend and her boyfriend broke up, but if you don’t act on how he feels about you then I don’t think that you and your friend will have a problem. I think that all in all, the best thing to do would be to be open and honest with her. Maybe you can even talk to the ex-boyfriend and tell him how you feel about the whole situation. Whatever you decide to do good luck and I hope all works out for you.
Response No. 3:
The best thing to do is to tell your best friend, just like her boyfriend was straight up with you. Tell her how your feeling toward both of them, tell her how you feel about him liking you and how much your friendship means to you. After you confront your best friend, you should confront her ex- boyfriend. Explain why it’s wrong and why the friendship with your best friend is more important than your relationship with her ex-boyfriend.
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