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Posted: Tuesday, April 30, 2013 12:00 am

Dear T2T: My boyfriend and I will be away from each other for 3 weeks this winter break. He wants me to send him nude pictures of myself over our phones. I trust him to keep them private, but I’m nervous. What do I tell him when he keeps wanting them? We are sexually active so it’s not like something he hasn’t seen. — Little Hesitant

Response No. 1:

There are many serious consequences in sending nude pictures, so I understand why you are nervous about it. Sending these pictures to your boyfriend is completely up to you and how you feel about it. If he keeps asking you for them more frequently and you don’t want to, then just tell him how you feel about it. Tell him that you are uncomfortable sending those pictures and that he shouldn’t have to need them since you guys are already sexually active. If you chose to trust him and send nude pictures to him while he is away, you should think of the consequences that can possibly happen if you do send them. Some of the possibilities are: what if you accidentally send them to other people besides him, what if you thought you trusted him but he posts it online or something, what if your parents or his parents find out, and other consequences. The choice is completely up to you, but you really need to think about the fact that they can ruin your future and once you hit send there is no way to take it back. I hope that my advice has helped and that make the choice that you think is best for you. Good luck and take care,

Response No. 2:

First of all, if you are under age, what your boyfriend is asking is illegal. If either of you are caught with these explicit pictures, you could be arrested and face child pornography charges. He might even have to register as a sex-offender. We recommend that you be cautious, even if you are sexually active, you have to be careful when taking pictures and giving them away, because you lose control of the pictures. Even if you trust your boyfriend, accidents happen, there are many horror stories where people meaning to send explicit pictures only to one person have accidentally pushed "send to all" and sent their friends, colleges, and family nude photographs. If you are hesitant (as it sound like you are) you should air on the side of caution and not send him the pictures. "Time makes the heart grow fonder." Think of it this way... if he has wait three week before seeing you, he will be that much more excited to see you when he returns!

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