Dear T2T: One of my friend’s relatives totally gives my friend alcohol. My friend totally takes advantage of this and I am getting a little worried about her and her drinking. She is starting to do it every single weekend and I am afraid something bad is going to happen to her. I don’t really know what to do because I don’t want to rat out her family, but I would just die if something bad happened and I just sat here watching. — Worried and Confused
Response No. 1:
We understand that you really care about your friend, and would never want anything bad to happen to her. First off, you should let a trustworthy adult know that your friend is consuming alcohol, such as a parent, counselor, or teacher. You don’t necessarily have to rat her family out and tell who’s giving your friend alcohol, but just let them know that she’s drinking it. You can’t really control what your friend does, but you can guide her to the right direction. If something does happen to your friend, it’s not your fault. You can’t take the blame for something you didn’t do. The decision was all in your friend’s hands. Any good friend would be worried about their friend’s habits, so don’t think you’re alone. You could also talk to your friend yourself about the situation. Sit down with her and let her know that her behavior is concerning you. Ask your friend why she’s consuming and accepting alcohol on a regular basis. Even though it’s her family that’s offering her alcohol, doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do. Please take our advice and thank you for coming to us. We hope you the best with your situation.
Response No. 2:
Talk to your friend. If you can solve this problem without confronting her parents or making this a legal issue, that would be ideal. Remind her that it is illegal for her to be drinking if she is underage and reminder her of the dangers of alcohol such as alcohol poisoning and drunk driving. You could also try speaking to your friend’s relative who is providing her with alcohol. If you cannot convince either of them to stop, then you need to get her parents or other family involved. Your friend may be angry at you for a while but it is better for her to be angry than for her to be dead. Don’t be afraid to resort to such drastic actions if you truly care for your friend’s safety.
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