Dear T2T: I have a good friend who has been leaving some Facebook statuses online that really worry me. He doesn’t seem like the kind who would actually follow through with anything, but I don’t understand why he would write what he does.
I know that things haven’t been going well for him lately. His girlfriend just broke up with him and his family is having money problems. He writes things that make it seem like he wants to “end it all.”
Do you think he is just venting? When we hang out, he seems perfectly fine. What should I do? — Worried About My Friend
Dear Worried About My Friend: Many teenagers go though times in their lives when they aren’t happy with anything. If he is leaving depressing Facebook statuses online, and acts normal when you two hang out, it is probably a cry for help. Maybe he wants to talk about it, but he doesn’t know how to bring it up.
You can address it a few different ways to him, like asking him what’s wrong. Or you can reassure him that if he ever needs anyone, you’re there for him and you truly care for and appreciate his presence.
If he is really thinking about “ending it all,” then you should probably further address it to his parents, school administration or a therapist. That way, they are aware of the situation, and anything unfortunate can be prevented in the future.
You don’t want to ignore it, because he truly is feeling down, and it might escalate to something worse.
He’s going through a lot right now, and he needs as many people to be there for him as possible. He may be putting up a good front that he is fine, but if he is talking about things like that it is very serious.
Don’t let him or your worries be unheard. — Sincerely, T2T
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