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Overachieving is contributing to depression

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Posted: Tuesday, December 31, 2013 12:00 am

Dear T2T: I have been an overachiever my entire life and, while I am grateful for having the opportunity to be able to work as hard as I have, I feel that the same “get ahead” mentality that has helped me accomplish things is contributing greatly to my feelings of depression.

As outwardly successful as I might appear on paper, I have never prioritized relationships, have never been in love, and have a feeling that if I continue on this trajectory I might never be. I feel that I have been given so many opportunities, and I have a responsibility to get ahead. I long for meaningful relationships though. — Overachiever

Response No. 1:

I understand your situation through experience. Throughout my entire life, I have been an overachiever, and have always been successful. I use to feel the same way about being in a relationship, I always thought I would never find anyone and I would always be alone. It brought me to feeling depressed most of the time. However, that statement of always being alone is a false statement. Truthfully there is someone out there for everyone, you just need to wait the for the right person to come into your life. Once that person comes in your life you will know. Don’t worry about never finding love. Wait for the right moment and the right person. Live life to the fullest and don’t have any regrets with anything. I know this from experience. Just because you cant find anyone at the moment doesn’t mean your going to be alone your whole life. Try and find someone that wants to be as successful or you wants to do a lot more in life you you both can have that in common. See what happens with that, but keep searching for that one person. Trust me you will find that one person when the time comes.

Response No. 2:

You Have that drive that most people do not have. And I applaud you on your prioritizing of school. Although school is the most important thing, you can join a club or play a sport. Clubs and sports are two great ways to meet new people who enjoy the same things as you. Some people wish they were as talented in school as you. Have confidence in yourself because your grades and schoolwork will get you far in life.

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