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Teen caught in the middle of locker drama

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Posted: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 6:05 am

Dear Teens 2 Teens: My two best friends (I’ll call them “Jane” and “Sarah”) have pretty much turned on me for something I had nothing to do with. Jane and Sarah got into a fight, and they shared a locker, Jane kicked Sarah out and she had nowhere to go, so one of my other good friends (“Mary”) decided to take her into her locker just to be nice. Then Mary gave Jane the locker combo and she went into the locker and wrote all over her Sarah’s stuff.

That night Sarah started yelling at me for giving out the combo and all this stuff she accused me of ... but I wasn’t even involved.

Now Jane and Sarah who used to share a locker are back to being friends and everything — and now they both hate me and they know I did nothing wrong, so I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to just drop them, but it seems like they already dropped me, so I don’t even know what to do. Help? — Locker Drama

Dear Locker Drama: It seems you’re in the middle of your drama-queen friends’ issues.

The first thing that we suggest is to sit down with Jane and Sarah and talk to them about the entire situation. If you’re telling us the entire story, you don’t have anything to lose. Sometimes these situations work out well to sift your true friends from the rest of the crowd. If these girls are your true friends, they will be willing to hear you out and realize that you did nothing to harm your friendship.

Make sure to going into the conversation open-minded. Maybe they are mad for a completely different reason than the locker drama. If so, then you can deal with that issue and apologize.

Conversations that start with finger pointing usually don’t end well. This doesn’t mean that you should be a doormat either. You shouldn’t have to take any blame or apologize for what you didn’t do.

True friendship is a two-way road of give and take. If they are not interested in moving forward as your friend, take the high road and devote your energy to other friends who are real.

Good luck. — Teens 2 Teens

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