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Posted: Wednesday, October 23, 2013 12:00 am

Dear T2T: I’m secretly dating three guys. I know, I know, you think I’m a player. I was once MADLY in love with this one guy but he cheated on me so bad that I gave up on true love. Now I am in love with one of the guys I’ve been dating. Madly in love that I literally want to drop the other guys. I need help giving up on the other guys and I want to just focus on me and the guy I’m in love with. I don’t plan on telling any of them... I just want to forget. Please help me :/ I know I’m in a big mess. — Played out

Response No. 1

Dating multiple people at once is very risque. Sooner or later it is going to catch up to you. Someone you may not think is watching, is watching you and your activities with these three different guys.

I feel that you should pick one guy because having multiple guys isn’t attractive and it can make you look bad and I’m sure you don’t think that. I think I know why you’re dating multiple people. It’s because you got your heart broken. You crave attention and each of these guys give you attention that you like in each of their own ways which makes it hard  for you to break apart from them.

At the end of the day, your heart will tell you who is really the one for you so I wouldn’t worry about it; however, you should really let them all go and start with something fresh and new because these guys are giving baggage and you need to set free from all three them and try to have a real solid relationship with one person.

It shouldn’t be with either of the three but you choose to be with one of them you need to sit down with that person and let them know what you’ve been doing and be totally straight up with them. Tell them about your past and if they understand, then you know it’s right but if not, at least you got all the lies and secrets out of your system.

Response No. 2:

Honestly, you need to tell the guy you’re in love with the truth or you will base your guys’ relationship on a lie.

If you’re truly in love with the guy you say you’re in love with, you need to tell your other boyfriends what happened to forgive yourself. If you don’t feel you’ve been dishonest with then, just tell them “I found a guy who I’m in love with.”

You must try to forget about the guy that cheated on you to move on. The guys you’re cheating on deserve to know the truth and you deserve to be happy with the one you love. Telling the truth to all of them will give you & the others a peace of mind.

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