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Don’t feel pressured into having sex

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Posted: Tuesday, November 27, 2012 12:00 am | Updated: 8:23 am, Tue Nov 27, 2012.

Dear T2T: My friend has been dating her boyfriend for almost 4 weeks now. Recently she told me he asked her to have sex, She says she’s not sure if she wants to or not. I want to give her some advice but I don’t know what to say. Please help me, help her! — Not So Sure

Dear Not So Sure: Making the decision on whether or not to have sex is a very crucial decision. If your friend is hesitant about having sex then she is probably not ready to take her relationship with her boyfriend to that level quite yet. Especially if she is being pressured to have sex, then she should not do it because she will most likely regret it. Having sex comes with certain responsibilities like whether or not she’s willing to risk having a baby with her boyfriend. There are also a lot of emotional risks that having sex brings to a relationship. She would also be trusting him when he says he does not have an STD. If she is not willing to take the chance then waiting to have sex is the best option. It is ultimately her decision and if her boyfriend does not accept it, then he might not be worth it. There are different ways that she can show her love for her boyfriend without having sex. Make sure to emphasize to your friend that once she decides to do this, she can never take it back. Patience is a virtue, and will be worth it.



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1 comment:

  • Darrell Baumbach posted at 7:10 am on Fri, Nov 30, 2012.

    Darrell Baumbach Posts: 9405

    great advice!!!

    Cannot think of many things more irresponsible than taking a chance of pregnancy which will force a decision to have an abortion or be a mother too soon... if a mother, do you stay home with the baby and quit school or stay in school and abandon a new born. I would not wish that on anyone. Much better be selfish as a teen and work to develop skills and wisdom time and effort brings.


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