Dear T2T: My friend has been dating her boyfriend for almost 4 weeks now. Recently she told me he asked her to have sex, She says she’s not sure if she wants to or not. I want to give her some advice but I don’t know what to say. Please help me, help her! — Not So Sure
Dear Not So Sure: Making the decision on whether or not to have sex is a very crucial decision. If your friend is hesitant about having sex then she is probably not ready to take her relationship with her boyfriend to that level quite yet. Especially if she is being pressured to have sex, then she should not do it because she will most likely regret it. Having sex comes with certain responsibilities like whether or not she’s willing to risk having a baby with her boyfriend. There are also a lot of emotional risks that having sex brings to a relationship. She would also be trusting him when he says he does not have an STD. If she is not willing to take the chance then waiting to have sex is the best option. It is ultimately her decision and if her boyfriend does not accept it, then he might not be worth it. There are different ways that she can show her love for her boyfriend without having sex. Make sure to emphasize to your friend that once she decides to do this, she can never take it back. Patience is a virtue, and will be worth it.
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