Dear T2T: I started a new school this year and I only hang out with 3 people. One of the girls is from my old school and the other 2 are new but I don’t feel I have enough friends. The 2 new girls are starting to find the girl from my old school annoying. She may be annoying but I don’t want to just ditch her for new friends because she’s been my friend for a long time. What shall I do?? — Dramz
Response No. 1
Being the new girl in a new school is always hard at first. Starting out with only a few made friends is normal because you don’t know anybody yet and you will eventually meet new people. If you want to gain more friends, you should start talking to new people and befriend them. Making a lot of new friends take time, so don’t worry too much about it and just be patient. As for your other problem, if 2 of your friends is getting annoyed with your other friend, then try talking to them and tell them that they don’t have to hang out with her if they don’t want to, but you are not going to stop being her friend because you have been friends with her for a long time before you met those 2 girls. If they can’t accept you because you are friends with her, then those girls aren’t your true friends and if I were in your situation, I wouldn’t be friends with them anymore and start searching for new ones along with your friend from your old school. True friends won’t judge you by who you hang out with and will accept you no matter what. But if they don’t, then they were never a really good friend. Friends come and go all the time in life and you will always meet new people weather it is now or later on in the future. All it takes is patience and a good personality. I hope my advice has helped you and that you will be able to resolve your problem through my advice. Thank you for writing and take care.
Response No. 2
This is going to happen more than just once, trust us we’ve all been there! As long as you remain a loyal friend to everyone, it shouldn’t be too hard to maintain a healthy friendship with all three of your friends. Just remember that you are not obligated to take any sides. In fact, not taking sides would be the smartest decision. That way you aren’t subject to accusations of disloyalty. If you feel like you are forced to take a side then just be honest and go with your gut. It’s never fun to be around people who make you feel guilty in conversation. You shouldn’t ask your original friend to change just because of what your new friends think. If this situation where 2 of your friends keep disliking another one of your friends continues, then you will eventually become caught up in it too and that’s not something you want. Remember that this kind of thing happens all the time and usually people will get along with each other even if there are minor things about each other that they dislike. Keep in mind that this problem is between your friends and you are not obligated to take any sides. Its not impossible to handle this situation without losing friends. Neutrality is key, but if forced, don’t be afraid to give your true opinion.
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