Posted: Tuesday, November 20, 2012 12:00 am
I feel like my dad doesn’t care about me
Dear T2T: My parents have been divorced since I was 7 and lately I’ve started to feel like my dad doesn’t care about me. I have two older siblings, one at college, so she isn’t home much, and one that dropped out of college and he works and is gone most of the time, and I live with my mom.
We go on vacation every year (with my dad), but a year ago he had a foot operation and we didn’t go and I was fine with that because he was injured and everything, but two months later when he was healed he took his then girlfriend on vacation to Paris, the place I’d always wanted to go to, without us.
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Darrell Baumbach posted at 7:46 am on Tue, Nov 20, 2012.
Response number 3...
Some fathers become depressed after a divorce and become resentful that they are no longer seen as a loving father but as a wallet that pays for child support. It should not be up to the child to fix the problem, but sometimes that is the reality. My suggestion is to love your father unconditionally and not resent any of his behaviors and forgive him if he gives less love to you.
If you instead give love and warm attention to your dad, it is very likely he will begin to understand his faults and then will return the love you have given him.
Kindness, love and a smile on one's child's face melts the heart of most fathers. Just remind him that he is your hero by appreciating him and he might respond with more love than you can imagine.