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Posted: Tuesday, August 27, 2013 12:00 am

Dear T2T: I met a really nice guy and he is into me. I think he’s hot, but he is SO BORING. I would like for our relationship to move forward if he could just step it up a notch in his personality. So what should I do? Talk to him and risk hurting his feelings or just let him slide and reattach to another bore? — Zzzzzzzz

Response No. 1:

I understand that this guy is super boring, but you should give him a chance if you want to give this relationship a try. Having looks is always a plus, but if you are going to be in a relationship with someone, you should be attracted to their personality not just their appearance. Maybe if you try showing him your personality he will start to open up too. Playing games with each other is always a good way to get to know each other more. 20 questions is a game where you can have fun and see what the person is really about. Another thing you can do is just simply joke around with him. Most guys open up to a sense of humor. Just talk to him one on one and see if he really is that boring. He will eventually open up, but it may take some time. If he doesn’t open up to you, you should hint to him that he needs to express himself more, but if you don’t think any of these things will work, maybe you should just let him go. Looks can only go so far. You can always find a nice and hot guy, but it will always be their personality that hooks you onto them. I hope this helps you and the best of luck with the guy.

Response No. 2:

First things first, don’t judge a book by its cover. It could be that he is holding back who he truly is because he’s afraid of how you will react. It can also be that he just has that kind of personality that seems boring to you. Get to know each other, find out his hobbies and skills. You can plan fun, inexpensive dates to see his true self. Go to the park together, scavenger hunt around town, ice cream date, or even go to a pizza place. To build any kind of relationship, it takes a lot of effort and time. If after all your effort and time, maybe the both of you are just meant to be friends.

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