Dear T2T: I am in a disagreement with my parents over how old I should be to date. I am not going to tell you how old I am because I want to hear your opinion and why. Please tell me what you think is an appropriate age to be able to go out with a boy or girl.
Do you think it should be different according to my gender, which I’m also not telling you. Please make some good points because if you are on the same point as me, I plan to use this article in my debate. — Dater Waiter
Twice the advice!
Answer No. 1
We’ve all been through that situation, and I know it can be really frustrating, but we can’t really tell you what age to date. It really matters how mature you are, but then again you can’t be too young to date. For example, when I was in middle school, I didn’t even think about asking my parents if I could date, cause I already knew what the answer would be, but I ignored their disapproval and had one any ways. When I got caught, my parents grounded me for a long time. In the end, I realize that it wasn’t a bad thing to get grounded, because the guy ended, up being a jerk. You could always compromise with your parents. I think that if you’re really serious about this person, then start off as friends and introduce his to your parents and when you guys think you’re ready bring it up top your mom and see what she says.
Answer No. 2
We understand where you are coming from. It is very hard answering your question, because appropriate ages vary greatly based upon cultures, religions, and family beliefs. It sounds like your parents are trying to look out for your best interests, so it is important for you to talk to you parents. Ask your parents respectfully if you can have a moment to speak with them privately. Be mature when trying to show your parents your point of view, but also try to understand their point of view. If you can’t do that, try writing them a letter expressing you feeling about this issue. If possible, try to come to a compromise, but remember that if whom you want to date is truly worth it they will wait for you.
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