I don’t watch Dr. Phil very often, but when I do there is usually something I can implement into my life that is valuable. I consider myself pretty active in the lives of my children, but cannot answer every question on the list for each of them. Sure, there are answers I would hope that they would give, but I cannot say with absolute certainty that they would be their answers. I thought this would be a good personal challenge for anyone with children. See if you can find out their answers without asking them the direct question. Ask some open ended questions and do a lot of listening. Don’t put a time frame on it. Sure, it’s a check list, but if you rush it you will never get the real answers. Solid relationships take a lot of time and effort.
Connect the Parent Questionnaire, by Dr. Phil
Do you really know:
1. What your teen is putting most of his/her energy into right now?
2. What personal issues your teen is trying to resolve?
3. What daily hassles irritate your teen?
4. Who has the most daily influence on your teen's thoughts and behaviors?
5. The names of your teen's three closest friends?
6. Who your teen would confide in first if there were a serious problem?
7. What your teen considers to be his/her greatest strengths?
8. What your teen considers to be his/her greatest weakness?
9. Who your teen considers to be his/her biggest enemies?
10. Your teen's favorite time of day?
11. Your teen's favorite movies?
12. Your teen's favorite childhood stories?
13. Your teen's favorite hobby or pastime?
14. Your teen's favorite colors?
15. Your teen's favorite foods or meals?
16. Your teen's heroes?
17. Your teen's favorite song, band or singer?
18. Your teen's favorite books?
19. Your teen's favorite television shows?
20. Your teen's attitude about his/her body?