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MySpace post leads to threats, assault, arrests

By Layla Bohm
News-Sentinel Staff Writer
Thursday, July 6, 2006 6:18 AM PDT

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It began when a Tokay High School student went online to the ever-popular MySpace.com site and posted pictures of a girl on his own space.

It escalated when some fellow students became angry because the girl was dating someone else.

And it ended when several suspects allegedly made threats online, then went to the teen's Morada house Monday and began beating him up. Two teens were subsequently booked into Peterson Juvenile Hall, according to the San Joaquin County Sheriff's Department.

The victim received a black eye and swollen cheek, Sheriff's spokesman Les Garcia said.

The two suspects were arrested on suspicion of conspiracy — which could be bolstered by MySpace postings shortly before the 2 p.m. incident — and assault. Each was also arrested on suspicion of battery, and one teen faces a felony charge, Garcia said.

The boys, ages 16 and 15, remained behind bars Wednesday, even as friends were posting online messages of support.

"i cant believe ur locked uP!! its crazy!!!," a Lodi girl wrote on MySpace, while another posted all-capital messages on both boys' pages, urging for them to be freed from jail.

MySpace.com is home to millions of users who take advantage of the free space that allows them to post pictures, send messages and network with friends and classmates.

The mother of one teen involved in Monday's incident said she couldn't believe the youths had posted threats, then followed up on them half an hour later. She worried that the online chatter could lead to further fights, and cause more problems when Tokay High resumes classes after summer break.

While youths may use the page to sometimes get into trouble, law enforcement officials find it helpful. In a Sacramento-area case that recently made local headlines, officials seized weapons when a young man posted pictures of them on his MySpace page.

Lodi Police are also no strangers to the site. Detectives who focus on gang enforcement monitor it, as do other investigators, said Lodi Police Sgt. Doug Chinn, who also oversees school resource officers.

MySpace at a glance

MySpace.com offers free space to those who want to post photos, blogs and messages. People may search for other users by name, e-mail or school, and can narrow the search to such fields as class year, age and interests.

"Our school resource officers use it quite often to find out what's going on with the schools. They've actually been able to use it to get information about fights that were going to happen, and notify the school before anything started," he said.

Local drug dealers sometimes show up on MySpace, and one time a dealer was released from jail and almost immediately began posting online threats against people he thought had turned him in to police, Chinn said. Detectives watched the whole thing.

"Everybody's using it — I mean everybody," Chinn said.

The site isn't always bad, and often leads to reunions between old friends and classmates who lost touch years earlier. But police warn parents to watch their children.

"They definitely need to monitor their kids' use on MySpace," Chinn said. "They need to have access to it and see what's going on."

Contact reporter Layla Bohm at layla@lodinews.com.

First published: Thursday, July 6, 2006

Reader Feedback

Lodian wrote on Jul 20, 2006 2:17 AM:

" (con't) The kids may be checking out Myspace, even if forbidden at home, at a friends house and they should be told not to post names, addresses etc etc.....and told the dangers of doing so. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 20, 2006 2:16 AM:

" Dad in Lodi: I feel that even if you decide not to allow your kids on Myspace a-parent should still make sure the-kids know a few things first, like your rules of Myspacing and guidelines to keep them safe..... "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 20, 2006 2:13 AM:

" This sort of thing goes for teen driving/freedom too.We have a parent-network and my kids know it.Nothing is fool proof,but my kids think I know everyone everywhere when I say things like, "Oh, I heard you were hanging out with "so-and-so" at the theater. How is "so-and-so" doing these-days?" "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 20, 2006 2:07 AM:

" old school mom: I have also seen these sorts of photos and I agree that the parents MUST be unaware. I have had this conversation with my friends and we have all agreed that if we ever see anything inappropriate involving our kids that we'd share it with one-another. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 20, 2006 2:02 AM:

" ANOTHER PERSON: That's the nature of a conversation. It evolves into discussion of related topics. "

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ANOTHER PERSON wrote on Jul 19, 2006 9:17 AM:

" NOTICE HOW EVERYONE ELSE DROPPED THE PROBLEM ITS NOT EVEN ABOUT THE KID ANYMORE ITS ADULTS AND KIDS ARGUEING ABOUT MYSPACE VERY MATURE!! "

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Mr. Clinton wrote on Jul 19, 2006 8:42 AM:

" I think myspace is a great web site to meet women, in fact that is where i met mrs. lowinski! So to all you ladies out there keep on posting ur pictures im really enjoying them! "

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Mr. Gayloard wrote on Jul 18, 2006 9:24 PM:

" Myspace is a very bad web site!!! You people need to make sure your kids never go there! I was shocked when I saw what kids are posting on there! "

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Dad in Lodi wrote on Jul 18, 2006 9:21 PM:

" Myspace is not a good web site for teens. We don't let our kids use myspace. And YEs there are ways to stop your kids from using it! Grow up people! "

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recent myspacer wrote on Jul 18, 2006 8:24 AM:

" How is myspace bad? It's a forum... almost like a blank slate. If you're going to blame myspace, why not just blame computers and get rid of all those? There's always going to be another site. "

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old school mom wrote on Jul 17, 2006 1:22 PM:

" my adult son showed me my space photos and postings of young female adults and minors (some who claim to be older than they really are) that he grew up with in our neighborhood...I was shocked by the revealing photos and comments made by these kids...their parents must be unaware! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 15, 2006 3:17 PM:

" I like to look up porn on myspace. "

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Someone wrote on Jul 15, 2006 12:42 PM:

" myspace is for losers and people who have no life, like most of you people on here! "

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cd wrote on Jul 15, 2006 12:41 PM:

" I have no life, so thats why I use myspace. I like to use it to find hot young girls with big boobs. "

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interesting wrote on Jul 15, 2006 9:52 AM:

" Mr Lee and A Mother said parnets "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 14, 2006 8:25 PM:

" a mother: What exactly are "parnets"? LOL! "

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cd wrote on Jul 14, 2006 8:20 PM:

" I guess those I go check on are the good ones???? I have not found a bad one yet. "

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cd wrote on Jul 14, 2006 8:19 PM:

" I go on myspace i don't see what you are talking about. My son and his friends do no wrong. Not everyone is bad on there. "

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A mother wrote on Jul 14, 2006 5:57 PM:

" So of you parnets need to protect your children from Myspace! Myspace is a very bad web site! "

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WastingTime wrote on Jul 14, 2006 3:58 PM:

" Here's the URL. http://www.fbi.gov/innocent.htm If enough people write them, they'll shut that place down which is just as bad as AOL chat rooms if not worse. It's going to take more than one to save the innocense of children. Only 1 if we save only 1. "

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WastingTime wrote on Jul 14, 2006 3:54 PM:

" Instead of complaining to a local newspaper where no law enformant see's your complaints. Write to innocent images. An FBI Group in Maryland who whatches kids on the net. Do something about it !! "

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What? wrote on Jul 14, 2006 8:34 AM:

" Joel Zaman/Elvis/The Principal: Are you okay? Do you need me to call an ambulance? It's not wise to post when you're drunk....or stupid! "

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The Principal wrote on Jul 14, 2006 12:29 AM:

" I like to see what my students are doing on myspace. I learn more about them because of myspace. I don't like it when I see pictures of them with beer tho. "

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Elvis wrote on Jul 14, 2006 12:27 AM:

" joel zaman's cool. :) "

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Joel Zaman wrote on Jul 14, 2006 12:23 AM:

" i am quit memeber of myspace.com because someone rude and blame can you. Myspace is not good for kids. Who parents can sue or compliants? Myspace such be manner and over 18 age up to... "

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LODIAN wrote on Jul 13, 2006 10:51 PM:

" Myspace isn't all "bad". It is the misuse that is bad. Of course the bad guys are to blame for their actions, but I would also include the lack of parental rules and supervision as part of the misuse. "

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shiels_lhs91 wrote on Jul 13, 2006 10:48 PM:

" i like myspace yesterday found someone ive looked for for 15yrs.also using now to find anyone who knew tim davis'snake' from galt.also found a friends grandson profile who lied about stuff he doesnt do,she watches him more now.i agree parents need to watch kids better,not only online but everywhere!!!! "

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The Principal wrote on Jul 13, 2006 7:43 PM:

" Mr. Lee, my first grader spells better than you! Are you sure you're not a kid yourself? "

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Mr. Lee wrote on Jul 13, 2006 5:19 PM:

" Myspace is very bad! You parnets should be a shamed of yourslefs!!!!!! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 13, 2006 2:38 PM:

" A kid that grows up not knowing computer skills is going to be at a great disadvantage when he/she gets to college and into the work force. Computer skills are a must these days. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 13, 2006 2:35 PM:

" Two-Cents is right.Kids today need computers as it's part of their school/life. It's part of this generation. They do research and projects using the computer.Allowing a good kid on the computer, under supervision and guidance, with rules and guidelines is a benefit to them and their future. "

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Two Cents wrote on Jul 12, 2006 4:41 PM:

" Those of you who suggest that the parents take away the computer, please get real! They'll just go over to their friends' houses and use the computers there! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 12, 2006 9:13 AM:

" Wow! Someone is going a little nuts with using the names of others on many of these blogs. Not my idea of fun...but whatever floats your boat. LOL! "

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cd wrote on Jul 12, 2006 7:58 AM:

" Even on here things go wrong for someone used my name and wrote something bad. oh well "

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Stocktonian wrote on Jul 11, 2006 11:10 PM:

" I moved to Lodi some 10 years ago, never spoke with my friends back east. 10 years later, they found me via myspace...hmm good or bad? "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 11, 2006 4:30 PM:

" You're an ignorant coward for using my name to post. Can't you stand by your own words? "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 11, 2006 1:24 PM:

" me too! Myspace rules! "

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cd wrote on Jul 11, 2006 1:17 PM:

" I like to look up porn on myspace! "

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I wrote on Jul 11, 2006 1:15 PM:

" Hmmmmm... I think you have a valid point. Couldn't agree more! "

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Hmmm wrote on Jul 11, 2006 8:54 AM:

" I never said I was perfect.I will take that as you can not deny the validity of my statements. It is not myspace that is the problem, it is those who do not make children accept responsibility "

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cd wrote on Jul 11, 2006 8:37 AM:

" Some do wrong and they will ruin it for the good ones. As a parent I go on and I see what my kids have to say and post... "

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cd wrote on Jul 11, 2006 8:36 AM:

" Mr Lee: My space is not bad. I have went on there. I have my own page and I go and see what my kids are doing. Them and their friends do no wrong. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 11, 2006 8:12 AM:

" To Mr. Lee: Why? "

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Mr. Lee wrote on Jul 11, 2006 12:54 AM:

" Myspace is a very bad web site! You people need to get your kids off that website! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 10, 2006 7:44 PM:

" cd: Well, thanks, it's a good thing you made that statement of mistake by using my blog name as we have some opposite viewpoints.I was thinking that I really need to decide on a new blog name and then I thought,"WHY?"people will just use my name to deface my-views-anyway.Oh-bother! ;-) "

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cd wrote on Jul 10, 2006 7:36 PM:

" sorry Lodian did not say that i put in the name Lodian by mistake....Sorry! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 10, 2006 7:34 PM:

" Lodi Dude said don't have kids wear condoms i said good use protection that is smart. Baby killers = abortion "

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To Hmmm wrote on Jul 10, 2006 4:55 PM:

" Aren't you proud! I'm so glad that you are perfect. I do think, however, that you very likely have some personality flaws. Good luck with those! "

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To Hmmm wrote on Jul 10, 2006 4:52 PM:

" Correction...that is "you're" lacking, not "your" lacking. Ha! "

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HMMM wrote on Jul 10, 2006 4:50 PM:

" As you can see by your vs you're it is easy to make mistakes, however these (not this) children are definitely challenged intellectually. Obviously, they were cut from the debate team. I would guess average GPA of 2.1 "

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To Hmmm wrote on Jul 10, 2006 4:42 PM:

" You are right there with the kids. Read what you wrote, Mr. Smarty. Your lacking in grammatical skills yourself. Remember the glass house saying? "

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Hmmm wrote on Jul 10, 2006 4:30 PM:

" Based on the spelling and grammatical skills of the "friends", I believe we can honestly say that this kids are NOT at the top of the class and probably just doing what they are educated to do, CRIME. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 10, 2006 2:55 PM:

" cd: baby killers? What the ? "

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cd wrote on Jul 10, 2006 11:04 AM:

" Lodi Dude so wrong but it is good you wear condoms since you don't want any kids. That is smart. There are so many out there who don't wear or us protection then some become baby killers. "

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cd wrote on Jul 10, 2006 11:00 AM:

" Not everyone that gets on myspace does wrong. It is a good way to keep in touch show pictures it can be fun and enjoying. Shame on those who do wrong. And ruin it for the good ones. "

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Stocktonian wrote on Jul 9, 2006 10:26 PM:

" When I was 13, in Lodi, I knew better. I still got caught up in the internet and did bad things. I blame no one but myself for the 'bad' things I did at that age. I got grounded, I still found ways. It was on me at that point! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 9, 2006 10:17 PM:

" myspaceless: Sometimes you have to go in the street to cross to the other side. If we hide away from everything that could possibly harm us, we'd never leave the house. Wait a minute...people get hurt in their own home all the time! "

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myspaceless wrote on Jul 9, 2006 4:54 PM:

" You wouldn't have to leave the whole city.. DON'T WALK IN THE STREET IN THE FIRST PLACE. "

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my space lover wrote on Jul 9, 2006 4:45 PM:

" my space my space my space my space i love my space "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 9, 2006 4:08 PM:

" Kids need to be taught to navigate through the world when these teen-issues come up,not turn,run and hide with blinders on.There will be times when mom and dad are not at their side to help them make the right choice.That's why we need to parent them NOW and educate-them-on-all-levels. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 9, 2006 4:03 PM:

" myspaceless:Going with your analogy...one can keep their eyes open, stay on a safe path and the semi will pass them by. One does not have to completely leave the entire city to avoid being hit by that, so-called, "semi".Education,supervision and maturity are key, not abolishment of the entire site. "

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myspaceless cont. wrote on Jul 9, 2006 1:14 PM:

" Kids are just too young to realize the danger. If theres a bus coming at you, wouldn't you want your parents to pull you out of the road? MySpace is like a freaking semi. "

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myspaceless wrote on Jul 9, 2006 1:14 PM:

" You can't blame parents if they are too nosy or overprotective. Parents only care about their kids' wellbeing.. and whats wrong with that? "

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teenagers mom wrote on Jul 9, 2006 8:55 AM:

" My kids have there own profiles on myspace, and i do monitor them. Just an FYI. There are comments on this blog regarding keeping in touch with high school friends.. anyone ever heard of classmates.com or reunion.com. This is a great way to keep in touch with old freinds. "

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LAURA wrote on Jul 8, 2006 9:14 PM:

" OMGOD THTS UST DUMB WELL YEAH PARENTS NEED TO BE ALERT TOO SO YEAH WOW I CAN BELIEVE IT!! "

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REDICULOUS!!! wrote on Jul 8, 2006 4:32 PM:

" BRUISES GO AWAY! DUH! AND DONT BLAME PARENTS IF YOU ARE THEN OBVIOUSLY YOUR PARENTS DID A BAD JOB AND DIDNT TEACH YOU ANYTHING!THIS THING IS OUT OF CONTROL! AND WE ARE ALL GLAD THE BOYZ ARE HOME! WITH THE PEOPLE WHO CARE! GET THE [[F]] OVER IT! "

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YOU PEOPLE ARE STUPID wrote on Jul 8, 2006 3:58 PM:

" Teenagers do lots behind their parents back and Myspace allows them to brag about it. Parents can't control everything their kids do. They can only teach them and hope they listen. MySpace is a catalyst for disaster and mistrust. "

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myspaceless cont. wrote on Jul 8, 2006 3:36 PM:

" But wouldn't it be more FUN and more stimulating to your senses to actually BE with your friends, and actually have conversations IN PERSON? I don't know about you, but in person conversations are much more enjoyable to me than some words popping up on a screen. "

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myspaceless cont. wrote on Jul 8, 2006 3:36 PM:

" Sure you might lose contact with some people - but if Myspace is the only way you kept in touch.. then you probably hadn't connected with them in the first place. Myspace is a good way to talk to your friends, sure.. "

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myspaceless cont. wrote on Jul 8, 2006 3:36 PM:

" but KIDS and young adults in our community.. Like those that beat up teenagers at their homes over stupid reasons. So much drama comes from this retarded website, and I think it would be a benefit to everyone if it would just SHUT DOWN. "

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myspaceless cont. wrote on Jul 8, 2006 3:36 PM:

" Everyone involved with Myspace is so completely sucked in by its "glory" that its pathetic. Myspace is really a breeding ground for disaster. I think its sad that kids/people can't see the danger and can't see what things come from ignorance with predators - not only sexual predators, "

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myspaceless wrote on Jul 8, 2006 3:35 PM:

" Wow.. lots of comments here guys, and a lot from kids who don't know what the heck they're talking about. Believe me, kids. You don't see the danger in Myspace without stepping outside of the cyber world and looking at it from a different perspective. "

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get a life wrote on Jul 8, 2006 2:33 PM:

" ! "

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Lodi Dude wrote on Jul 8, 2006 2:06 PM:

" I'm telling you people, don't have any kids. Kids are bad. Use condoms every time you have sex. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 8, 2006 2:05 PM:

" oh my god. I love myspace! Lots of nice looking women showing there boobs off!!! I love it! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 8, 2006 1:53 PM:

" enough: Most people are just going by the article here which told the story of the kid getting beat up by some other kids that read his Myspace. "

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Enough! wrote on Jul 8, 2006 1:48 PM:

" Im not talking about enough of the myspace. Im talking about enough slamming of the boys involved. Myspace is not the problem. The people that feed off of issues and try to make things worse are the problem. "

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thatshotbacci wrote on Jul 8, 2006 1:05 PM:

" Hey, "Enough"...Even dogs have myspace...you are taking this way too seriously, and for us with grown up and out of the house kids who live far away and circles of friends who travel as part of their career. THAT is one way we keep in touch...with each other...you are clueless. "

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Enough! wrote on Jul 8, 2006 1:00 PM:

" Don't you people have anything better to do with your time? Go play with your kids! "

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myspace.com/Aldonza1 wrote on Jul 8, 2006 12:52 PM:

" There is more to myspace than graffiti blogs, and bulletins. We need to all be good to one another...After all, we are all we've got, plus our word, and the way we treat one another inspite of ourselves and others "

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parent wrote on Jul 8, 2006 12:48 PM:

" Ok what are these kids names I want to look up their myspace?? "

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TO Lodian (the fake one) wrote on Jul 8, 2006 12:35 PM:

" shut-up "

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Lodian (the fake one) wrote on Jul 8, 2006 12:35 PM:

" shut-up "

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Morada Mom wrote on Jul 8, 2006 10:28 AM:

" What is the best way to get the kids off myspace? Take the fun out of it. Parents create your own myspace, ADD ALL of your kids~friends to your friend~list. Then start posting on them. "Hi, this is ??? mom stopping by". OH post baby pictures of your kids!! HAHAHAHA "

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To Lodi Dude wrote on Jul 8, 2006 9:37 AM:

" Here, here! Thanks for the laugh. I know you mean it but it started my day off laughing! "

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Lodi Dude wrote on Jul 8, 2006 7:49 AM:

" The best way to have good life is not to have any god damn kids. Use condoms people. "

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King wrote on Jul 7, 2006 11:13 PM:

" Can't we all just get along? "

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OMG wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:51 PM:

" All you Lodi moms and dads are f--ucked up in the head. Sign up for myspace is see what goes on there. You might not like what you see. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:40 PM:

" Myspace is a great website. I like to look up hot girls on there that show there boobs. "

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To BS wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:35 PM:

" Everyone is a snitch. You would sell out your mom and dad given the right circumstances. Yes I know I'm right, I work in a prison full of snitchs, everyone can be bought and sold, thats a fact of life, so get off that snitch thing. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 7, 2006 7:27 PM:

" Rebecca:Be careful how far your blind loyalty goes with your friends.Sometimes your "friends" will do things that you do not approve of and they will get YOU in trouble too. Loyalty only goes so far. You will learn this when you get out in the real world and beyond-high-school. "

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REBECCA! wrote on Jul 7, 2006 5:17 PM:

" OH A JAIL HOUSE WEDDING.. WOW.. UMM I WILL STAND BEHIND MY FRIENDS 100% BEFORE PEOPLE THAT SIT THERE SAYING THEY ARE BAD KIDS WITH BAD PARENTS WHEN YOU DONT KNOW EITHER OF THEM.. "

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Fed Up wrote on Jul 7, 2006 4:38 PM:

" Rebecca and BS society should not stand behind those who are violent and call victims snitches. What is acceptable in high school is not acceptable in the real world. Learn to act rather than react and you will go far. "

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Rebecca open ur eyes wrote on Jul 7, 2006 4:23 PM:

" Sweetie stop defending the criminals, they will only bring you down. Keep hanging with them who knows maybe you will have a jailhouse wedding. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 7, 2006 3:58 PM:

" In light of recent events, why hasn't this kids Myspace been shut down? Seems like it would be a good idea until things cool off. "

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bullsh*t wrote on Jul 7, 2006 3:35 PM:

" this is all bS!the only reason this is makin the news and paper is because this kids parents are rich!kids get into fights like this everyday!and everyone says this kids so inocent but he has rape and all these crazy a** pictures on his myspace! "

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Fed Up wrote on Jul 7, 2006 12:53 PM:

" Ok teach these kids that they can get arrested for a planned assault, but still be great people. With that attitude in 20 years they will be great criminals and violent ones at that! What a contribution to society "

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TO FED UP! wrote on Jul 7, 2006 12:39 PM:

" YOU DONT KNOW THESE BOYS LIKE I DO! THEY ARE GREAT PEOPLE.. AND DONT THINK THAT, KID IS PERFECT.. AND I HOPE THAT YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE GETTING THREATS FROM 30 YR OLD PEOPLE ON MYSPACE SO I GET YOU WORDS STRAIGHT BEFORE THEY COME OUT OF YOUR MOUTH "

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Soon to be anounced wrote on Jul 7, 2006 12:29 PM:

" Its one thing to fight at school, but when you track someone down at their home, with the intent of assault on an individual, it seems pretty clear you are dealing with Adult mentality. Thus all should be tried as adults when it goes to the Criminal Courts. "

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HI TECH PARENT wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:48 AM:

" This makes me ill "...this was our first thought and how WE were taught. With things as they stand, we've been advised against this, however." People won't do the right thing out of fear of a lawsuit-apologizing = guilty. "

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To My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:37 AM:

" Just so it's clear, we are not the family related to the granddad. We are so sorry. This was all so stupid and avoidable. There have been some major lessons learned. I'm done posting and want no escalation of bad feelings. I do understand your side of this. "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:12 AM:

" but it is not beneath me to apologize for caring about my son. "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:11 AM:

" I have asked my son's close friends who these boys are. I think that is understandable. If you think that is harrassement, again, I apologize. My concern is that nothing happens to anyone in the future. I'm sure that all this will get misunderstood, "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:08 AM:

" I do not know the other boys or parents to have gone and talked to them. I haven't gone around to the community so I am not sure where you are getting your information. And yes, "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:06 AM:

" for the misunderstanding between the granddad and I. I just want the threats and retaliation to stop adn I thought he and I could talk mature enough to try to get a handle on this before it gets out of hand. "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:05 AM:

" saying inappropriate things. So I will apologize for any one misunderstanding me but still, it wasn't my son who posted the threat or went to someone's door with the purpose to F--- someone up. So again, I will apologize "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:03 AM:

" out of my hands as are the charges. But I am aware that his grandson was bragging and taking ownership for the incident and I felt the granddad would want to know as I would want to know if it was my son doing and saying "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 10:01 AM:

" couldn't understand why he would turn on my son or set him up. I talked to his granddad eye to eye as I would expect any adult would do. I made no threats. If there is a lawsuit it is out of my hands. The arrests were "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 9:59 AM:

" I wanted no ill feelings and if it had been my son who hurt his grandson, I still would have gone to him to apologize with my son in tow. As for his granson, my son considered him a friend and he & I were very hurt and "

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My Perspective wrote on Jul 7, 2006 9:57 AM:

" TO THE MOM OF THE BOY INVOLVED, this will probably get misconstrued ALSO but in my defense I went to the granddad only because I know him and have done business with him through the years, as does my place of work. "

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Fed Up wrote on Jul 7, 2006 9:48 AM:

" Ok these kids are going through hell, I call it personal accountability. Those who say the attackers are having a terrible time, stop showing them pity. They are assailants and I hope they are prosecuted to the full extent of the law "

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HMMM... wrote on Jul 7, 2006 9:39 AM:

" BLAMING MYSPACE ISNT HELPING AND FIGHTING ON HERE ISNT EITHER. THE BOYS ARE GOOD HEARTED KIDS! AND THEY ARE GOING THROUGH HELL AS IS EVERYONE ELSE. BE A LITTLE MORE OPEN TO BOTH SIDES. FORBIDDING MYSPACE WILL MAKE KIDS WANT IT MORE~ "

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To mother of boy involved... wrote on Jul 7, 2006 8:39 AM:

" Your son went to someone's home and assaulted them. If it were my kid I would make sure it got in the paper too. And I'm surely not rich. I think you & your son are just jealous of this family. "

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OTH wrote on Jul 7, 2006 8:18 AM:

" HI TECH Parent good for you. Sounds like it should be installed on every computer that a child uses. "

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the mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 7, 2006 8:00 AM:

" Just an FYI to the person suggesting we go and apologize in person to the parents...this was our first thought and how WE were taught. With things as they stand, we've been advised against this, however. Different times. "

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LMAO wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:34 PM:

" Everyone blames myspace for everything......when in the first place, parents need to become parents and maybe forbid kids to use it til they can be trusted with it. Parents need to take control and know where their kids are 24/7. "

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LMAO wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:33 PM:

" Sounds like all you arguing in here need more help than those kids. Look back at the posts you've wrote. Sounds like you all are just as immature as those boys. Think about it people, cause you look really bad right now. "

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Hi Tech Parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:25 PM:

" Cyber Sitter also logs their Chat sessions .... "

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To the mom of the boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:23 PM:

" Look at your posting at 9:24, you made it clear that it was because of the victims mother that this is in the paper. If you really wanted to apologize to the victims parents, ask your son for directions he knows the way "

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Marc S. wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:21 PM:

" Myspace is nothing but a breeding ground of inbred hicks who rely on a computer for their social life. It's pathetic when trash resorts to beating people up over some lame picture. Nothing more than a bunch of retards. "

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OMG #2 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:13 PM:

" We keep very close tabs on our kids and we have tried to instill good values. Unfortunately, they have a certain amount of time we are not with them and hope they make good choices. "

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Hi Tech Parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:13 PM:

" Cybersitter also emails me every time one of them logs in, and emails a daily log of all websites they visited. "

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Hi Tech Parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:12 PM:

" I use Cybersitter which I can program to restrict computer access. My kids can only get online between 6pm and 8pm, when us parents are home. "

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OMG #2 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:11 PM:

" The kids who did this make a big mistake and it sounds like they are being punished. It doesn't sound like the parents are trying to downplay the matter. Taking shots at the parents won't help matters. "

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Hi Tech Parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:10 PM:

" Too many parents aren't in control of their children. My child would be scared to death to change a password or have a secret myspace because .. the consquences are too dire. "

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the mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:05 PM:

" I am embarrassed. I'm not condoning what the kids did. They are getting punished and taking responsibility. You are reading things into this that haven't been said. I'm certainly not blaming the victim or his family for anything. The way they handle themselves is their business. Enough said. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:05 PM:

" Parents: This is a good time to discuss Myspace with your kids. I think we can all agree on that! "

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boys will be boys wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:48 PM:

" I dis~agree I lived through 3 teenagers and all the fights go 2 ways all involved are at fault they had probably been going back and forth. It would have eventually happened anywhere and maybe the other way around? who knows. "

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cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:40 PM:

" do not blame the victim's mother for it getting into the paper. If YOUR SON did not beat this kid up, it would not have made the paper. I think you are blaming the wrong person. "

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cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:38 PM:

" everyone has the right to feel safe at their home, rich or poor. Your son did not have the right to take that away from this boy or his family. Think about how you would feel. "

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To the mom of the boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:35 PM:

" You should be embarassed. Your child did not get into a fight, he conducted a premeditated assault. If the honor of the girl was at stake, let her and her parents deal with it. The victim was attacked at HIS HOME! "

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OMG #2 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:55 PM:

" To the other OMG: I have been posting under this name for a while, but I don't want to get into an argument. I don't agree with your position, so I will use OMG #2 if I post any more comments in this blog. "

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baller06 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:53 PM:

" TOKAY GO DUMMY YEE! "

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boys will be boys wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:49 PM:

" Settle down this is a difficult age for boys. I have raised a son and he has done things and he is now an adult and has grown out of it and your boys will too. IT IS JUST A PHASE "

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TO CONT!! wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:44 PM:

" you make me sick.. your retarded! dont sit there and say so and so is a bad parent your dumb thinking these parents dont care! to answer your question it made the paper cause hes a rich kid, people get beat up everyday does it make the paper NO! "

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kids will be kids wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:37 PM:

" I feel like lodi p.d. should get involved if these kids have beef let them have a boxing ring and let other kids show up to watch. Make sure they are safe and let them box!! If that is what they want to do let them do it safe! "

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the mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:36 PM:

" To the original OMG. Thank you. "

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To OMG # 2 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:32 PM:

" If you read the comments from this morning I was using OMG this morning on the comments WAY before you were on line today! "

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the mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:31 PM:

" to the copy cat OMG How cruel you are. If I could only say here what the victims my space says in big letters (or did say as it's probably not on there now.)You might say the same for that boy, especially if you had a daughter. "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:28 PM:

" Kids have goten upset over someone else liking their girlfriend for eons. Same story, just new technology. Good luck! I hope it all works out. "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:27 PM:

" I hope things work out ok for all the families. Kids are very impulsive and, unfortunately, parents can't manage every second of their lives. "

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the mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:24 PM:

" The recorder is on as the mom of the victim is out in the community making threats and telling the news paper, the school and local businesses she and her husband are suing us. I'm not saying she doesn't have right but now you know why it hit papers. "

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The mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:21 PM:

" To OMG at 8:07 I've tried calling to apologize but I won't do it to a recorder. "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:11 PM:

" The parents take legal responsibility for their children's actions and the parents should know what is going on. But I also feel their pain and hope things get much better for all parties involved. "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:54 PM:

" To whomever posted under my name at 8:07pm today, I would appreciate it if you come up with your own name. Thank you. "

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Cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:19 PM:

" Thats why you must have known that YOUR son was going with his friend to beat up another kid because of a picture he posted. What an ignorant kid. This kid will be in and out of jail for the rest of his life and will NOT amount to anything. "

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Cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:17 PM:

" I don't see that mother on here apologizing to the other boys parents for what her son did. You must have been VERY involved parents!!! "

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to all the parents wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:15 PM:

" Grow up. MySpace is here to stay. Don't like it, then get the F out of here. "

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Cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:12 PM:

" And if it wasn't a big deal than how did it reach the paper? And now when your kid comes home you will probably baby him instead of him being in trouble for what he did and taking RESPONSABILITY. The kind of parent you are makes me sick... "

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Cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:10 PM:

" "He never did drugs, he wasn't in gangs, I know everything my child does." And you are actually the parents that don't know "Crap!" And here is one of the parents on here thinking that what her son did wasn't a big deal. "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:07 PM:

" To the parent of one of the kids you are a typical parent that when your kid does something bad like "beat another kid up" or something against the law you come on the news and say "he was a good kid" "

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The best Parent in the World wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:30 PM:

" I had no idea there was so many parents that have "the best kids in the world" you probably dont have a clue as to what your perfect kids are doing, I feel sorry for parents that get stereo typed as bad parents because their kids are out of control "

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THINK ABOUT IT! wrote on Jul 6, 2006 6:13 PM:

" THE BOYS HAVE HAD A ROUGH COUPLE DAYS.. BELIEVE IT OR NOT THEY FEEL AWFUL AND REALIZE IT WAS WRONG.. YOU DONT KNOW THEIR PARENTS SO DONT SAY THEY ARENT INVOLVED W/ THEIR KIDS WE ARE ONLY HUMAN AND WE MAKE MISTAKES. NO KID OR ADULT IS PERFECT! "

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cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 6:06 PM:

" Sometimes all the monitoring in the world and boy will still be boys. You can almost guarantee it if a girl is involved. "

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cont wrote on Jul 6, 2006 6:01 PM:

" I do agree that the two who beat on the one do deserve punishment, but what about the one boy... it sounds like he was an antagonist. Like I said ALL of the parents need to be monitoring what their child is doing online. "

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yet another parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:59 PM:

" Allthough I see both sides of this, I can't help but find fault in the parents...all of the parents. If your underage child is using the internet you really should have something such as pc tattletale to monitor their activity. "

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A mother on one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:56 PM:

" Again, thank you for support. I think most parents understand that teenagers aren't the easiest beings to contend with at times but we love them unconditionally and know that maturity comes with age. When the foundations and seeds for goodness are taught, the outcome is grand in almost all cases! "

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A mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:55 PM:

" However, I can't sit by my son's side every minute, can you? Kids have to learn responsibility for their decisions and actions whether on My space or not. "

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A mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:53 PM:

" Fischgoth, who ever you are, you are so off base. We have been very involved parents with our children at all ages. Again, you don't know us. My Space had little to do with this situation really and I do know what my son sends and receives "

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A mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:52 PM:

" What the boys did was wrong and stupid! They've experienced the worst days of their lives the past few days. It's made a huge impression on them. I'm sure this will be some consulation to the parents of the child with (or without)the black eye. "

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A mother of one boy involved wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:51 PM:

" I appreciate support on here and having someone call my son a "bad seed" hurts. You don't know us. The parents involved are good people...good citizens. We do our best to instill good morale values in our kids. Our kids aren't criminals...seemly brain dead at times as their judgement reveals. "

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OTH wrote on Jul 6, 2006 5:47 PM:

" Lodian&OMG You are so right. You have to stay one step ahead of them all the time. Kids are kids and they will push the envelope. What a surprise when you're there waiting for them! "

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SK wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:52 PM:

" This is gay "

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TEENAGER101 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:44 PM:

" THAT BOY DOESNT HAVE A BLACK EYE! IF YOU SEE THE PICS.. HE DOESNT HAVE ONE.. SO STORIES NEED TO GET STRAIGHTEND UP! "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:43 PM:

" I agree with Lodian. Whether it's computers, school activities, or who your children are friends with, the parents need to be aware. "

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REBECCA! wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:42 PM:

" WELL I AM NOT EMBARASSED.. I MEAN YEA THINGS GOT OUT OF HAND AND I DONT THINK TEACHERS HAVE THE RIGHT TO COME UP AND BE RUDE WITH HOW THEY SAY THINGS.. IF THEY WOULD HAVE APPROACHED IT RIGHT IT WOULD HAVE BEEN FINE! "

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to caring mother wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:39 PM:

" Take the computer away! That will solve the changing of passwords and Email. If you paid or are paying for that service, it belongs to you not your child! "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:32 PM:

" As an adult, that did not grow up in the tech-age, I've had to immerse myself so as to learn what my kids are learning in their computer age. As parents we have to do this. Technological advances will only go forward and we have to keep-up-with-our-kids. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:30 PM:

" We all need to educate our own kids about what NOT to put on Myspace. We need to TALK to them. Don't run from this. It isn't going away. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:29 PM:

" Parents...I have access to every site my kids go to on Myspace. You can do this too. You can see what other kids are doing as well as your own. You can see where the parties are and what will be going on this weekend etc. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:24 PM:

" Myspace can be a good tool if you know how to use it. Parents, educate yourself about Myspace. There are pages at the site that can help you. I've learned a-lot about the "goings-on" with the teens around Lodi. It's a window, don't smash it, look through it. "

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To Rebecca wrote on Jul 6, 2006 4:11 PM:

" If your friends are such good kids and this is no big deal, why do you care if teachers associate you with them. Sounds like you are just as embarassed by their behavior. "

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How can you people say... wrote on Jul 6, 2006 3:55 PM:

" that it was "just" a fight. In a civilized society you don't go to someone's home and beat them up. Money has NOTHING to do with it. You people are crazy. "

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Morada Mom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 3:44 PM:

" I was teasing my son the other day, said that all of us~"OLD"~people are going to take~over~myspace. We're going to take all the fun out of it! I was going on and on about~what~we would post. I was almost in tears when I looked at him, so was he....TEARS~OF~FEAR!! hahahahaha "

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huh wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:54 PM:

" i think all of this just got out of hand what some parents don't realize is that there are fights everyday but just because his parents have power to everyone the news, the papers, and now going to school and harassing students this is just such nonsense!! "

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confused wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:29 PM:

" ii know the boy who was beat up. he had a party for the 4th of july and in ur paper it reports that he has a black eye..but if u look at his pictures from it hes smiling and no black eye is present. "

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con't wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:27 PM:

" I see too many dangers out there and am not about to let him expose himself to those dangers. I am not saying he will never encounter any, but if I can help prevent it, I will. And if you think your children are above all that, think again. "

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con't wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:26 PM:

" and I never said I couldn't control my child. The fact that he keeps asking is because he still doesn't have a MySpace. If he did, he wouldn't ask and that would mean I can't control him. "

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another mom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:24 PM:

" to "to another mom" well aren't you blessed to have perfect children. congratulations! everyone should mirror you. what works for one, doesn't necessarily work for another. and I never claimed to be a better parent if they get rid of MySpace. "

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TEENAGER101 wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:22 PM:

" WELL HIS PARENTS ARE GOING AROUND TELLING TEACHERS.. AND THE TEACHERS ARE HARASSING THEIR FRIENDS .. WELL ITS REDICULOUS.. AND IT ONLY MAKES IT WORSE.. SO HIS PARENTS NEED TO STOP MAKING THINGS HARD FOR EVERYONE! THERE ARE FIGHTS EVERYDAY THIS KID GOT A COUPLE BRUISES! "

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REBECCA! wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:20 PM:

" i am friends with all of the kids, they are good kids..its all over the news because hes a rich kid and they can afford to humilliate people..well its affecting their friends, at summer school today a teacher said "oh i hear your friends got arrested" "

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Lodi Teen wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:16 PM:

" All you old people and parents need to stay off myspace! It's for us teens to use! Not you! "

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Howard Stern wrote on Jul 6, 2006 2:15 PM:

" MySpace is a great web site. Lots of good looking women show there boobs on there! "

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parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:33 PM:

" ok here is something that will help you all.. pc tattletale, lets you read emails and get passwords. If you think this is spying, don't blame myspace your kids are minors. You are responsible "

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Parent wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:33 PM:

" My kids have myspace and I monitor it daily. My kids communicate with me and I have their passwords to view whats going on and my oldest child is 22!! Communicate with your kids parents they will talk to you! "

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cont. wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:32 PM:

" So don't blame MySpace that you don't know how to control your child and that is why he can't have a MySpace. "

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cont... wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:31 PM:

" I monitor it so close that I have my own and a lot of their friends are my friend so I can see what they post as well in case I want them to delete a friend due to inapproriate posting. "

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To another mom... wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:30 PM:

" Getting rid of MySpace would not help you to be a better parent. If you say no to your kid that's your choice. The fact he keeps asking is not MySpace's fault, I'm sure he's the dork among his classmates tho. My kids have one but I MONITOR it. "

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thoughts... wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:17 PM:

" okay well comment below.. think about what your saying before you write it.. cause you dont know any of these people.. and its stupid to think oh ground them or shut down myspace.. your dumb kids still find a way! we arent retarded! "

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Weezer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:15 PM:

" 'mother who cares' talks as if she's helpless in dealing with her child. Perhaps, she should look up the words discipline and responsibility. Raise your kids so they'll be prepared knowing that in the real world, if you get caught for doing something wrong, you get punished. "

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thoughts... wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:15 PM:

" i dont think that sitting here and critisizing the parents helps any, everyone makes their own decisions.. and if you know anybody involved then you know who and what they are all about.. and myspace isnt the problem either are parents.. "

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ThinkingMom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 1:00 PM:

" to mother who cares, I really think that if your son is trying to deceive you be changing things so you cant see, I really think you should take his computer away from him altogether then maybe he might see things differently. Trying to help. "

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a real mom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 12:25 PM:

" Mom who cares: Go ahead shut down your son's myspace. Sounds to me like it is not myspace or your son that are the problem, it is you. How will your child learn to take responsibility for his actions, when you don't. "

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OMG wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:54 AM:

" I think parents on here that are saying myspace is the reason why they can't control there kids are stupid. I wish I can spend a day watching them interact with there children! I bet I could see a lot of bad things they do. "

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J Bonk wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:49 AM:

" If MySpace loses all their sponsors, then MySpace would not make any money and would shut down. "

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J Bonk wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:48 AM:

" Like what happened with Yahoo's chat rooms, the people you tell that you are disappointed with MySpace, are the sponsors "

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J Bonk wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:47 AM:

" Now you don't have to be "16 or under" to make your myspace profile private. I even have my messages set to friends only "

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J Bonk wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:45 AM:

" I, myself have been stalked/harrassed on MySpace, and have reported it to MySpace...they delete the offender's profile and the offender would make another profile. "

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J Bonk wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:43 AM:

" Mother who cares: if you shut down your child's profile, he/she can make another one...its all too easy. "

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Fischgoth wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:40 AM:

" Kudos to the people who place the burden of responsibility on the parents. If you don't want to spend time with your children or care about their welfare--don't have them. Predators know full well which kids are not being supervised or whose parents are "too busy for them." "

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an idea wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:39 AM:

" here's an idea for parents: get your own freakin account. you can see everything on your kids page and dont need any passwords. make them add you as a friend or dont let them sign up at all. then you can see what their friends are up to too! "

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mother who cares wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:32 AM:

" I would love to close my sons myspace account please tell me how. Yes I am aware that my son is the issue, however so are alot of your children, read their mail, its a big problem, they use drugs have sex and drink! "

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Father Knows Best wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:03 AM:

" this is a classic example of "cyber-bullying" that went toooo far! I'd bet there is more to the story however. But a great lesson for our kids to learn from; don't post it if you dont want the world to see it! "

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Father Knows Best wrote on Jul 6, 2006 11:01 AM:

" my kids have accounts and I review them several times a week. I also know of other GOOD kids who have pages without parents knowledge. I think it has morphed outta control, but it is what it is. "

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the informer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:53 AM:

" here's something worth noting. Rupert Murdoch the owner of Foxnews, a billionaire, purchased the myspace site for 682 million dollars. Isn't it great that our kids are being used for profit. "

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Someone out there wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:32 AM:

" Educate your children on how predators work. Predators are opportunists. They found kids before my space, if my space is shut down, they'll still find ways. Educating our children is the answer here. "

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Someone out there wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:29 AM:

" Set some rules...get your own account and require that they add you to their friends list. Don't allow them to add people they don't know. Require that they set their blogs for private access (viewable by friends only). "

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Someone out there wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:27 AM:

" The people who want it shut down are COMPLETELY uneducated about how it works. Its not that predators are forcing their way into your child's life...its YOUR CHILD LETTING THEM! "

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Someone out there wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:24 AM:

" I'm so tired of people who say "my space caused me to stub my toe" or some such nonsense. Its simple. If you can't control your kid, don't give them unrestricted computer access! "

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a real mom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:09 AM:

" Mother who cares: If you care so much, why would you shut something down because your son changed his password? Take responsibility for your child, there are programs that enable you to see what they do. Myspace is NOT the problem, the problem is poor parenting. "

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cmd wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:09 AM:

" but, myspace has some safegaurds. if you put on there that you are under 16, it blocks your profile and makes it so that people have to be accepted as a friend before they can view anything on your page or see who your friends are. "

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cmd wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:07 AM:

" On the Con side: people that you purposefully lost contact with along the way can find you. It also opens up a way for psycho x boyfriends to read your postings and see what you are up to. "

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cmd wrote on Jul 6, 2006 10:03 AM:

" Myspace has its pros and cons. It is a great way for people to stay in contact. Dozens of high school friends, that I have not talked to since Tokay, have found me on there. Also, friends from undergrad that moved away and so on. "

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another mom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:51 AM:

" I wish they would get rid of MySpace also. My son asks for one every couple of weeks and my answer is always no. Until I see more positive than negative about MySpace, it isn't happening. "

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Watching My Kids wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:32 AM:

" Punish those brats that went after the Morada teen. Let that be an EXAMPLE of what can happen to bad seeds! Post their mug shots on MySpace. And see how cute they look. "

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Watching My Kids wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:30 AM:

" To Lead By Example...I totally agree. Good breeds good, bad breeds bad. It is not up to the law, teachers, or religious leaders to RAISE our children to be proper citizens! It is up to US, the PARENTS that gave life to the children. "

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Lead by example wrote on Jul 6, 2006 9:21 AM:

" To each his own, but I say it all comes down to the parenting, how you raise your children, and moral values. Parent's therefore lack that themselves. Lead by example. "

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Weezer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:59 AM:

" To recent myspacer, I agree. Myspace is a very convenient excuse for parents of misbehaving kids. Shutting it down won't make kids behave overnight. What's next? Blame it on the rain (or lack of it)? "

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recent myspacer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:56 AM:

" myspace is just a forum like many others, it's just more popular. Are we going to get rid of all forums, including the one we're in now so that no one has to be a parent? "

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recent myspacer to simple solution wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:55 AM:

" Just so you know that kid wouldn't have died from the "crap" on myspace.... but from the kids that were not taught how to properly respond to upsetting situations. "

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Weezer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:54 AM:

" Yes, it's simple. I decided to have my computer password-protected because my son violated MY rules. Kids will be kids. If parents have rules and they can't enforce it, don't blame the kids. "

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an older, wiser mom wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:49 AM:

" MySpace started out great! But, your young teen girls are on the site with older boys, and even older men like a trucker friend of mine. The site has worn out its original usefulness. Maybe Disney has a solution. "

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It Seems Like A Simple Solution: wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:32 AM:

" Changing passwords ...is a CLUE not about privacy, but "I don't want you to know what sites I am going to, or posting! A innocent child has no issue with SHOWING they can be trusted on the computer. Break all their fingers! "

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It Seems A Simple Solution: wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:28 AM:

" This boy could have died because of the CRAP on Myspace.com. Not only do drug dealers go there but it is a home for many child molesters. Kids won't like many of the rules we make but they are made for a reason. Respect and responsibility go hand in hand. "

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It Seems A Simple Solution: wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:26 AM:

" Parents need to simply password their computer and deny access to a unruly teen who refuses to appreciate the good that comes from a computer. If they live in your house, your rules MUST be obeyed. You can't protect him or her from everything, nor close your eyes either. "

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To Mother Who Cares wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:25 AM:

" You must not care too much or you would control your child. If my son blocked his MySpace, the computer would be gone. If you can't control your son, don't blame MySpace. "

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OTH wrote on Jul 6, 2006 8:11 AM:

" I have an 11 year old niece who uses My Space and it scares me to death even though her Mom monitors it regularly. I agree it could be a good thing for kids but it seems like it has been taken over by the lunatic fringe. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:56 AM:

" mother who cares: You can't shut down everything that will tempt your son to disobey you. As the parent you can make it so your son can't have a Myspace, but the other people that are using the site responsibly should be allowed to do so. "

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recent myspacer to mother who cares wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:53 AM:

" That is an excuse, if your child does not follow your rules disallow unsupervised internet access. Who makes the rules? The only parents kept in the dark are the ones that allow it to be that way. Myspace is great for those capable of using it properly. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:52 AM:

" mother who cares: You are in control here. Myspace doesn't need to be shut down because your son isn't going by your rules. "

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Lodian wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:52 AM:

" mother who cares: It looks like your son is the issue here, not the Myspace site. If you require your son to allow you to check on his Myspace and he makes that impossible then he should not be allowed to have the Myspace. "

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recent myspacer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:46 AM:

" It saddens me that some children have been taught to resort to physically harming someone, especially for merely seeing a picture of someone somewhere. People post pictures of celebrities all the time... are we all going to go beat those people up now too? "

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recent myspacer wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:43 AM:

" Please do not take this as a chance to blame myspace for these problems. It is merely a forum for people to keep in touch and express themselves. It is entirely up to the users (and parents) to decide what they do with the information they see. "

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mother who cares wrote on Jul 6, 2006 7:31 AM:

" My Space needs to be done away with, it's a way to keep parents in the dark, at one point had access to our sons My Space account, but he changes passwords and Email address so we are unable to monitor his account. "

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